latinodet1
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I was involved in a 7 year relationship. We had our up's and downs. As we hit the 5 year mark she left our apt. with her then 10yr daughter to move in with her sister and about 6 other people. After about a year we got back together. I was paying all the bills in the apt and all the toiletries.Since she lost her job and i was doing ok financially there was no need for her to work.A year goes by and we had an argument and i told her that i was with someone else..Which was a lie .I said it on spite because of something she said that pissed me off.. Well needless to say we argued for 2 months, no sex and all she wanted to do was hang around her girlfriend all day long. i was a ghost in my own home..I didn't exist..Well in the end i gave her 2 options.. Be responsible for your home and take care of your duties around and about the house and the relationship or get out. Well i came home that night and everything was gone. All the furniture, all of her clothes and all of my stepdaughters belongings. She moved in with her girlfriend and her husband with 3 small kids..So do i continue to chase her or is this someone that you just let go since obviously she doesn't want responsibilities..Remember she already left once and this is the second time she did it to me. She also left her husband the same way years ago and a past relationship the same way. She doesn't care about her living arrangements or her daughters well being. Do i move on or do i try?
2 months ago
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I called her two days later and we spoke for two hours. She said that it was my fault that she and her 12year old daughter had to leave. I told her she had to grow up and stop running from relationship problems.When i told her to come home because her daughter needed her space instead of being shacked up with strangers she responded " She would rather live under those conditions then come home". So am i stupid or what???(P.S) Two months have passed by and she does not anwser her phone and we have not spoken a single word..I just found out she is living in a shelter for woman who have EXPERIENCED Domestic violence.. What a joke.. Never laid a hand on her or forbided her from living.. Instead i gave her everything she asked for.. Was I dealing with a Woman or a Child??
Although we have had no contact in two months she still continues to use the credit card i gave her for gas purchases for the car that i payed for and gave her. Usage also includes small purchases at fast food restaurants which lead me to believe she is broke. I am a christian and can't seem to come to terms that i have to cut her off.. What do i do??
2 months ago
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I called her two days later and we spoke for two hours. She said that it was my fault that she and her 12year old daughter had to leave. I told her she had to grow up and stop running from relationship problems.When i told her to come home because her daughter needed her space instead of being shacked up with strangers she responded " She would rather live under those conditions then come home". So am i stupid or what???(P.S) Two months have passed by and she does not anwser her phone and we have not spoken a single word..I just found out she is living in a shelter for woman who have EXPERIENCED Domestic violence.. What a joke.. Never laid a hand on her or forbided her from living.. Instead i gave her everything she asked for.. Was I dealing with a Woman or a Child??
Although we have had no contact in two months she still continues to use the credit card i gave her for gas purchases for the car that i payed for and gave her. Usage also includes small purchases at fast food restaurants which lead me to believe she is broke. I am a christian and can't seem to come to terms that i have to cut her off.. What do i do??