I will try to make the story short! Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been together two and 1/2 years now and have been looking to buy a house together lately.
My mom uses my computer once in awhile to look at ancestry.ca and her email, but she really doesn't know how to use a computer. I just leave the windows open for her when I am not home and she manages to browse around. One day, she told me that she couldn't get to her new emails and that the computer was acting strange (she really doesn't understand it) and when I looked at it, I saw that she was logged in to my boyfriends account. (I guess he was on it earlier that day)
She had opened an email of photos of his ex. Very explicit naked photos. This was in his hotmail sent box. It was sent from himself to himself which I didn't understand. It was awhile ago (about 6 months after we were together).
When I asked him about it, he was horrified (who wouldn't be since my mom saw this even though I don't know if she realizes what she saw was her and his email account). He told me that yes he had those and they were only sent to him because he and his friend were having a laugh about it and he sent them to his email and then to his friend through his phone... the strange thing was though too was that there was a video of her giving him a you know what which I don't think he would have shown to his friend.
We have been kinda rocky since then and I really don't know what to do about it... I am 99% sure that the videos happened before we met but why was he keeping this after we were together... Should I let it go? Should I ask for proof? Should I make sure he has nothing else like this? I feel like the stuff about showing it to his friend is a lie. Especially since I don't understand why they were in his sent box to himself...
I want to be reasonable but I also don't want to be letting an issue go that I shouldn't because it bothers me...
please help!
My mom uses my computer once in awhile to look at ancestry.ca and her email, but she really doesn't know how to use a computer. I just leave the windows open for her when I am not home and she manages to browse around. One day, she told me that she couldn't get to her new emails and that the computer was acting strange (she really doesn't understand it) and when I looked at it, I saw that she was logged in to my boyfriends account. (I guess he was on it earlier that day)
She had opened an email of photos of his ex. Very explicit naked photos. This was in his hotmail sent box. It was sent from himself to himself which I didn't understand. It was awhile ago (about 6 months after we were together).
When I asked him about it, he was horrified (who wouldn't be since my mom saw this even though I don't know if she realizes what she saw was her and his email account). He told me that yes he had those and they were only sent to him because he and his friend were having a laugh about it and he sent them to his email and then to his friend through his phone... the strange thing was though too was that there was a video of her giving him a you know what which I don't think he would have shown to his friend.
We have been kinda rocky since then and I really don't know what to do about it... I am 99% sure that the videos happened before we met but why was he keeping this after we were together... Should I let it go? Should I ask for proof? Should I make sure he has nothing else like this? I feel like the stuff about showing it to his friend is a lie. Especially since I don't understand why they were in his sent box to himself...
I want to be reasonable but I also don't want to be letting an issue go that I shouldn't because it bothers me...
please help!