Frank Delano
New member
...Could it be a problem? I've been dating the perfect girl for me for a few months now. I've known her very well for a few years, and she is exactly the girl I have been looking for and I can confidently say that I want to marry her one day. Everything is completely compatible and we see eye-to-eye on everything important. However, she's really prude (I don't know another word to describe it, but I don't mean it in a derogatory way, even if it sounds that way). I'm not a sex-crazed horny guy or anything, but before me, she had never even kissed anyone, and we are both in our mid-20s. She is always extremely awkward when it comes to discussing anything even remotely sexual in nature, even if it has nothing to do with us (Just like talking about other people or things on TV and stuff).
I am worried that even though everything seems perfect now, she will never be that interested in physical intimacy and that will hurt our relationship if we end up getting married. She wants to wait until marriage to have sex, just like I do, but I want to have a decent amount of physical intimacy after that.
How valid are my concerns? Is this something to bring up with her now, or will everything be fine once we are married (i.e., she's just shy/prude now, but once we pass that barrier of being married, everything will be fine)? If I should bring it up now, how do I do it in a sensitive way that doesn't make her feel uncomfortable, or make me seem like I am overly interested in the physical aspect? I really just want to have a strong and healthy relationship with her, and as far as I can tell, sex is an important aspect of many marriages.
I am worried that even though everything seems perfect now, she will never be that interested in physical intimacy and that will hurt our relationship if we end up getting married. She wants to wait until marriage to have sex, just like I do, but I want to have a decent amount of physical intimacy after that.
How valid are my concerns? Is this something to bring up with her now, or will everything be fine once we are married (i.e., she's just shy/prude now, but once we pass that barrier of being married, everything will be fine)? If I should bring it up now, how do I do it in a sensitive way that doesn't make her feel uncomfortable, or make me seem like I am overly interested in the physical aspect? I really just want to have a strong and healthy relationship with her, and as far as I can tell, sex is an important aspect of many marriages.