She just doesn't get it!! I wonder if my mother-in-law never will!?

[Faith]

I was sick for 2 weeks in the hospital about a week ago. These hospital trips aren't often, but while I'm being treated medically....there was stuff was going on behind my back where I call home (live with my husband, son, and in-laws). Husband is out of work. When I am home which is almost all the time (except for maybe 2 visits to hospitals each year to be treated for autoimmune disorders) I do everything for my son and my husband prefers not to help. So I am the one who gives the OK on questionable things to do with my son by my in-laws. Not once have they asked for permission to just take him with them to dinner. My mother-in-law has it in her head that she can do whatever she wants with my son without getting permission from me. These things she does are things like 1) Locking my son in a hot car, calling EMS to get him out and doesn't even bother telling me about it until I walk out to work and see the fireman pulling him out to safety.2) Calling for Dr. Appts for my son to Dr I dont approve of and just today I found out that she took my son, whose never had his picture made professionally before (because we don't have he money),...to get the pics made while I was in the hospital. I was seven digits away in a hospital bed and probably would have said it's fine to do it, but I'd like to pick phtographer (as I've read that child images can be phtoshopped to look like my son & maybe in a bad way) OR they could use his image to promote advertising. Forget about all that stuff. The real reason it irritates me my mom in law did this is that most every mommy wants to be there for her child's first moments, whether it be a day at the beach, first steps (which mom in law told me she saw them first), a first haircut (she tried to take him behind my back to get that done, but I cut that off real quick) and a first time to get professional baby pics taken. I should have been there and picked out his clothes and did his hair and protected him from anything (if any) sleazy or didn't feel right about this photo place. But no I didn't get to do any of that. I was told I was crazy today when I expressed. It was important to me and no one asked the mother (ME)her opinion. My husband barely spends time with our son and is so far up his parents boodies that he'll let them dump on me for fear we'll get kicked out of inlaws house. I have to get out of this house and go back with my folks and start over when they return from a trip out west. Am I over reacting? She is so far up in my business, I have nothing and no place to call my own. Any advice...remember se plays the victim role with me VERY well when I try to challenge her behavior about discounting my fellings as mom. Says things like "i've never had someone be so mean to me before, bla bla bla, I just feel like the worst person in the world." Then her pathetic husband, my father in law comes in-to-save-the-DAYYYYY and rescues her from evil daughter in law. Note: I am a first time mom