My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 years, . We are both 24. Sex has always been amazing between us. It's like our body parts fit together perfectly.
My issue is that she has never really liked foreplay. Weird enough, I love it. I love to be teased and to take our time. I love to give back. I love going down on her and she seems to enjoy it when I do. 7 or 8 times out of 10 she has an orgasm when I give oral. I've just learned to tell and she wouldn't lie. She knows I don't get petty about it. When we do have foreplay, it's all me. she just lays there with her eyes closed, (i sometimes think she might be asleep) I light candles, incense, put on music, give her a 30 minute back rub, kiss her all over, and go down on her, sometimes she will go down on me for like 45 seconds, or if i tell her she will give me like a 5 second massage, then we go back to the regular routine. Which is of course great sex, but sometimes I can't help but think I got cheated somewhere. I used to be content in just giving, but now it bothers me that she doesn't want to give me any special attention. If I stop doing extra for her she just doesn't seem to care. She is content with efficient sex.
I don't understand how first of all, we can have amazing sex so that we are both laying exhausted on the bed giggling, and she goes on and on about how great it was and she is kissing me all over like worshiping me for our sex romp, but then she is slow anymore to initiate or to want to have sex to begin with. Even though when we do have sex she loves it. Second, she also prefers to skip foreplay, go right for each others fun parts and have the sex.
More than that, I just need it once in a while. Just like I need sex more than once a week. When I approach her on the subject of foreplay she says she doesn't know and doesn't understand. When I ask about having sex she just says the same and that she doesnt actually need sex, she can live without it and that she's always been like this, and has nothing to do with me, We have had these conversations like literally a hundred times. I always end up feeling guilty like I'm pushing sex on her or something.. I've tried all sorts of things like being spontaneous, romantic, trying new things, etc. All the time. Its fun while it lasts but no lasting effect. I am trying so damn hard here. Everything else about our relationship is great. I'm not looking for much, sex a few times a week, foreplay a few times a month. Please help, what can I do? Any advice would be great.
My issue is that she has never really liked foreplay. Weird enough, I love it. I love to be teased and to take our time. I love to give back. I love going down on her and she seems to enjoy it when I do. 7 or 8 times out of 10 she has an orgasm when I give oral. I've just learned to tell and she wouldn't lie. She knows I don't get petty about it. When we do have foreplay, it's all me. she just lays there with her eyes closed, (i sometimes think she might be asleep) I light candles, incense, put on music, give her a 30 minute back rub, kiss her all over, and go down on her, sometimes she will go down on me for like 45 seconds, or if i tell her she will give me like a 5 second massage, then we go back to the regular routine. Which is of course great sex, but sometimes I can't help but think I got cheated somewhere. I used to be content in just giving, but now it bothers me that she doesn't want to give me any special attention. If I stop doing extra for her she just doesn't seem to care. She is content with efficient sex.
I don't understand how first of all, we can have amazing sex so that we are both laying exhausted on the bed giggling, and she goes on and on about how great it was and she is kissing me all over like worshiping me for our sex romp, but then she is slow anymore to initiate or to want to have sex to begin with. Even though when we do have sex she loves it. Second, she also prefers to skip foreplay, go right for each others fun parts and have the sex.
More than that, I just need it once in a while. Just like I need sex more than once a week. When I approach her on the subject of foreplay she says she doesn't know and doesn't understand. When I ask about having sex she just says the same and that she doesnt actually need sex, she can live without it and that she's always been like this, and has nothing to do with me, We have had these conversations like literally a hundred times. I always end up feeling guilty like I'm pushing sex on her or something.. I've tried all sorts of things like being spontaneous, romantic, trying new things, etc. All the time. Its fun while it lasts but no lasting effect. I am trying so damn hard here. Everything else about our relationship is great. I'm not looking for much, sex a few times a week, foreplay a few times a month. Please help, what can I do? Any advice would be great.