She cheated.. Why are we still having sex?

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Ive been with my girlfriend for 4 years, a few days ago I found out she had sex with someone I dont know around 2 months ago. In that period we were goin through a very rough patch and thinking of breaking up (we didnt). We came out of it stronger than ever and it was fantastic the past month. We were both very very happy. When i found out i was deeply hurt n wanted to murder her. I confronted her and she could not be more sorry. She was phyically sik and almost suicidal thinking I would never be with her again. The whole truth came out and I can believe it was a 1 off mistake but i will always think there is somthing i dont know because the trust is gone.

It hurts when I think of them having sex. It also hurts knowing I would never have done same to her even through the roughest of patches. I have however been visting her everyday since and we have been having amazing sex. after I feel a little sad but get over it. I dont thnk i will ever be able to trust her, and I dont know what it is that i should be doing. Can she be trusted

Should I take time away from her, or shall i countinue to talk/visit/sex her and chill with her, and occasionally kill the mood by mentioning him. Its not even been a week! I see myself getting over it, but not being able to trust her again and forgive her totaly. Im confused, should I even want to be with her. Because I still do.
 
If you guys feel comfortable having an f-buddy relationship, then go ahead. Would I still continue being her boyfriend? No.
 
don't ask us...answer that urself!
u obvi still like her or why else wud u?
have some respect for urself and get away from the cheatin bi***
 
because you are a male and think with your penis. Only kidding :) It is just that you DO love her and wish it didn't happen. If she was sincere then I guess you guys can get along. She probably was just starving for male attention so she went to someone else. I am sorry it happened but you can get over it just maybe have a break from sex for now and just cuddle and kiss for a while until it doesn't hurt so much. In the mean time just try not to think about them having sex it was a long time ago and at least she regrets it
 
okay firstly, fair enough she is sorry but she didnt even tell you.
even though she was in the wrong and it would have been hard to tell you it shows how much she respects you if she didnt even bother to tell you.
i think that you should have a break from this girl, dont talk to her at all.
shes trying to win you back by having sex, so dont have sex with her during this week.
if you think you can forgive her and try to get past this, then you need to start getting over it.
after this week, sit down and talk to your girl, tell her how much she hurt you, and she didnt even tell you but say with work that maybe you can try to trust her again.
good luck it takes time though :)
 
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