Sex with baby around...performance anxiety?

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CeciliaM

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Our son is almost 10 months old.My husband and I are fortunate to continue to enjoy an active sex life, though I have to admit that it is, well, difficult for me to perform and enjoy when my son is awake. Even when he is sleeping, I have trouble performing if he is in the same room, which is a problem because he rooms with us. I guess I'm afraid that he will be grossed out or mentally damaged somehow even though he's too young to understand what is happening. I had the grave misfortune of catching my own parents in the act, and it's haunted me so I want to try as best as possible to avoid my son the trauma. One thought is having him sleep in his own room, but my real problem is the anxiety so I was hoping for other thoughts, suggestions or words of encouragement? Also any book ore references you may know of that could help me get over this anxiety. Thanks!
 
We've all been there. Our daughter slept in our room until she was 4 months old, so until she was transferred in to her own room next to ours, we had to be creative and just go to another room. I mean we certainly didn't HAVE to but I felt awkward about the whole idea. So, off to the living room sofa ;)
 
Doesnt he have own room... just seperate yourself.. & then youll be fine... you need to just distract yourself... maybe take shower with HUbby- this is always fun!!! hes fine- too young to know like 3 & up isnt good.

be in seperate rooms!
 
Unfortunately it is normal to worry about it. To keep this fun relationship with you hubby you may need to leave the room after he is asleep and relocate yourselves during your fun. That is kind of an adventure...
 
I can relate 100%. I felt so self weird being intimate with our baby around so I ultimately moved her to another room, or since we are just a family of 3, we would go move to another room ourselves.
 
Very thoughtful of you. Many Many Many couples are in the same spot. Even if they don't say.

Go to another room. You can leave the doors open, still hear your child if you need to, and still have a little privacy. Who said you need to be in your bed?

You could go in the floor by your bed where the baby can't see - if you still want to be close.

Try to make good use of every room in the house. You are fortunate to still be in love with each other and not have the house filled up with kids yet. Have fun!
 
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