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In Elie Wiesel's Holocaust novel "Night": Social constraints become stripped away, and young people openly have sex, with everyone pretending not to notice. After being confined in a small, cramped wagon with no food, water, or sanitation, the young people submit to their animal instincts and copulate without even considering the people around them.
This book is a memoir about Elie Wiesel's recollection of the Holocaust at Auschwitz and Buchenwald. In this situation, when people had been shamed beyond anything I can imagine, they turned to sex to make themselves feel better. Isn't it what we continue to do to this day? People think of 'waiting for the right moment' and lighting candles to set the mood. It is simply put: A basic need.
So when I notice some of my guy friends taking girls back from the night clubs, I feel like I should congratulate them for finding a "match" who they have impressed with their wit, humor, and or looks/money. But, I quickly realize that these conquests are simply meaningless. I've had sex with lots of girls and if there's loneliness within me it does not go away once the act is over. I used to think getting a woman to 'hook up' with you was like some major accomplishment. But, at the end of the day I've realized it means nothing and she's just taking care of her need. You could be a pole for all she cares.
If she's horny and you're at the right place at the right time, both of your needs will probably get met. But, "intimacy" is the wrong word to describe sex. "Intimacy" more closely resembles something like helping your best friend change her bandages after she just had a mastectomy and came back home from the hospital. Sex is just that: Sex. I used to read countless books on how to "kiss-close" and how to "number-close" because all I wanted was a rule book about the best methods of getting laid. How do I act? I had fun but I realized one thing. We are just like the Holocaust victims in Elie Wiesel's story. Many people (married, non-married, Jersey Shore-d), are just as miserable as the young people on the train to Auschwitz. And we pretend that sex will create "intimacy" in a meaningless relationship. It won't, I've learned.
And most importantly, women are not being 'empowered' because they can sleep around. Feminism isn't solving anything. Calling guys man-whores might make you feel better because now being a slut has been de-stigmatized, but so what? We (people who mistake sex for "intimacy) think we're so much better off than the ugly, prudish, Christian, etc. people who are sitting at home while we're having P. Diddy 'tantric sex' with the hottie from the club. But, we're wrong. We're using them and they're using us. Just like the person who's always taking advantage of you and asking you for rides/money/mooching off you. But, with them...we understand they're using us and we know eventually we'll stop it. With 'sex,' it's just a need. Stop being ashamed and hiding the fact that you're a whore or man-whore. But don't go bragging to your friends about that hot girl who slept with you after the night club closed. You weren't that special to her. You were just a co*k. Or for the ladies, you were just a va*. "Intimacy" is derived from human good will and LOVE. Sex by itself fails to provide you with either. Agree??
This book is a memoir about Elie Wiesel's recollection of the Holocaust at Auschwitz and Buchenwald. In this situation, when people had been shamed beyond anything I can imagine, they turned to sex to make themselves feel better. Isn't it what we continue to do to this day? People think of 'waiting for the right moment' and lighting candles to set the mood. It is simply put: A basic need.
So when I notice some of my guy friends taking girls back from the night clubs, I feel like I should congratulate them for finding a "match" who they have impressed with their wit, humor, and or looks/money. But, I quickly realize that these conquests are simply meaningless. I've had sex with lots of girls and if there's loneliness within me it does not go away once the act is over. I used to think getting a woman to 'hook up' with you was like some major accomplishment. But, at the end of the day I've realized it means nothing and she's just taking care of her need. You could be a pole for all she cares.
If she's horny and you're at the right place at the right time, both of your needs will probably get met. But, "intimacy" is the wrong word to describe sex. "Intimacy" more closely resembles something like helping your best friend change her bandages after she just had a mastectomy and came back home from the hospital. Sex is just that: Sex. I used to read countless books on how to "kiss-close" and how to "number-close" because all I wanted was a rule book about the best methods of getting laid. How do I act? I had fun but I realized one thing. We are just like the Holocaust victims in Elie Wiesel's story. Many people (married, non-married, Jersey Shore-d), are just as miserable as the young people on the train to Auschwitz. And we pretend that sex will create "intimacy" in a meaningless relationship. It won't, I've learned.
And most importantly, women are not being 'empowered' because they can sleep around. Feminism isn't solving anything. Calling guys man-whores might make you feel better because now being a slut has been de-stigmatized, but so what? We (people who mistake sex for "intimacy) think we're so much better off than the ugly, prudish, Christian, etc. people who are sitting at home while we're having P. Diddy 'tantric sex' with the hottie from the club. But, we're wrong. We're using them and they're using us. Just like the person who's always taking advantage of you and asking you for rides/money/mooching off you. But, with them...we understand they're using us and we know eventually we'll stop it. With 'sex,' it's just a need. Stop being ashamed and hiding the fact that you're a whore or man-whore. But don't go bragging to your friends about that hot girl who slept with you after the night club closed. You weren't that special to her. You were just a co*k. Or for the ladies, you were just a va*. "Intimacy" is derived from human good will and LOVE. Sex by itself fails to provide you with either. Agree??