Sex....How many times a week is it normal to have sex with your partner?

[GenuineGemini]

I have been married for about 2 months now (we have been together for 10 years though….never lived together before marriage). I don’t find my husband as enthusiastic about sex like he was before we got married, I suppose its because we used to meet once a week before we got married and now…im just there.

I find the urge to have sex atleast once in 3-4 days, it not just about the sex but more the intimacy. I go to bed about 10.30 and he stays awake playing XBOX. I don’t want to restrict him from playing as I don’t want him to feel imprisoned but at the same time…it annoys me (he asks me if its ok for him to play XBOX)

I don’t want to always initiate sex as I never had to and shouldn’t always have to. I am a bit shy to talk to him about it as I don’t want to come across as one horny wifey.

I once indirectly mentioned our “non-existent” sex life and he said something along the lines of how having sex often could make it boring, therefore once a week or once is 10 days is good.

Am I missing something or is it normal to want sex only once a week or once in 10 days (like we used to before we got married)

What do you think?? How can I approach the subject without offending him or coming across as over-sexed (which I don’t think I am)….

Thanks

 

[LiT]

14 - morning and night.

 

[martin picker]

There is no "normal". Everyone's different. You're right about the pre-marriage, post-marriage thing...most guys get a little tired of it after the honeymoon's over. Once every two weeks seems to be the norm for most guys. But, then, some guys want it every day. And women are the same. So don't be too hard on him. (sorry for the pun)

Oh, and wait till you have kids....it gets worse.

 

[Jeanie]

all you can do is talk to him,you could try sexy outfits and toys and stuff to spice things up

 

[くまくま]

dont make it seem like a chore for him, suprise him by doing things he wouldn't expect you to do to make him want to have sex.