Lucifene Cox
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...do? Okay.. I'm going to explain everything upfront. I'm 19, and my parents separated in February of last year. My dad moved to Tennessee at that time and right now is living in an apartment. He's been taking xanaxes and/or pain pills like candy since he was 14 years old (so he says and his family backs this up), he is now 52. So, he's been taking them for a LONG time and is an addict. When he left, the only problem he had that we were aware of is that he was anti-social and depressed. He WAS going to a psychiatrist for this, but wasn't telling her everything. He's been deteriorating mentally since then, and we literally cannot do anything about it from here. We're in a bad spot financially, as is he. He's on disability and makes 1200 a month. His rent is going up to 800 in march and he said when this happens he will be living in his car. He says that he has to pay 75 dollars every time he goes to a doctor or psychiatrist [Did I mention he lies compulsively? Almost everything he says is a lie. I've caught him doing this alot; lying about situations where I and others were THERE and can prove him wrong.] and when I looked it up, it said medicare covers 75% of costs. Even with our REGULAR insurance, we aren't paying that much. So I don't see how he's paying $75 a doctor visit. [My sister just mentioned he told our mother he had to pay $40] =/ He said he can't get his meds anymore [he's stopped taking them and has started getting alot worse]. My mom and I have TRIED telling him that if he gets a cheaper apartment up here, we will help him. But we aren't letting him live with us because it's not a fun experience living with him. He says he can't afford to pay to move up here. I told him to stay with his sister and save up to do so. He says he doesn't want to be a burden on his family. I tried telling him that they would rather that than see him live in his car and he said 'well that's how the world is' and changed the subject entirely. I have NO idea what to do, because he's rebuking EVERYTHING I suggest and lying and I would try calling psychiatrists in the office to help him except that apparently he can't afford to see them. And he would lie to them anyways. I tried suggesting he move into an assisted living facility but he said they're bad and abuse the 'patients' there and nobody will take him to get his groceries. He has a TON of family members that live down there. I'm almost CERTAIN one of them would help with this, if not his other daughter and son in law. He refuses to do anything to help himself and keeps telling me it doesn't matter because he won't be around much longer anyways. I literally have absolutely no idea what to do about it. If none of you on here can help me, I'm hoping at least one of you has a number I can call or website or SOMETHING [that's free] that can help me. I'm seriously at a loss here and at my wit's end. I'm currently suffering from depression myself and dealing with him on top of it is going to drive me into an early grave.
Also, half of the time he insists there is nothing wrong with him and everyone else are the ones with problems. He HATES my mother's family when they have done nothing to him and often tells me about my youngest aunt's sexcapades that didn't actually happen when I try to defend her. I know she DID do some crazy things when she was around my age, but someone please tell me how many teenagers actually don't. He DOES have 'lucid moments' where he admits he's messed up and needs help. These do not last long. He gets pissed if I don't agree with everything he says and disowns me every time I try to hang up on him when I don't like what he's saying. He then makes a huge deal out of it, tells his whole family I'm disrespectful and want him to go fuck himself, and comes back asking me to apologize OR acts like nothing happened about a week later.
There really isn't any way for us to get down there to him, or for him to get up here to us. I'm not worried about helping US, because helping him IS what would help us.
Also, half of the time he insists there is nothing wrong with him and everyone else are the ones with problems. He HATES my mother's family when they have done nothing to him and often tells me about my youngest aunt's sexcapades that didn't actually happen when I try to defend her. I know she DID do some crazy things when she was around my age, but someone please tell me how many teenagers actually don't. He DOES have 'lucid moments' where he admits he's messed up and needs help. These do not last long. He gets pissed if I don't agree with everything he says and disowns me every time I try to hang up on him when I don't like what he's saying. He then makes a huge deal out of it, tells his whole family I'm disrespectful and want him to go fuck himself, and comes back asking me to apologize OR acts like nothing happened about a week later.
There really isn't any way for us to get down there to him, or for him to get up here to us. I'm not worried about helping US, because helping him IS what would help us.