A while back, a friend of mine and I decided we wanted to expand our circle of friends, including eligible men, and tried to figure out ways to do so. We tried offering free coffee on her porch, but that worked about as well as having a lemonaid stand in a ghost town.
So, we made lists of stuff we liked doing. She liked rollerblading and hanging out at the beach. I liked theater and libraries. So, we found a place that had "date night" at the skating rink and started going there (I watched, she skated). We also volunteered to help on beach clean-up days, found a couple of local theaters that needed back stage volunteers, and a library that held monthly sales and wanted folks to help sort and stack books.
Bottom line is that we ended up being around people who had similar interests, and got out a lot more than we would have before making our lists.
What you need to do is to expand your options if you want to meet new people. And, if you're doing something that you like, you'll find people, including females, who like those as well. It's no guarantee that your future soul-mate is hanging at the local skating rink, but they are certainly not hanging out on your porch, hoping for free coffee.
And, as hard as it is to manage, what other folks have said about liking yourself first, is absolutely true. If you don't find yourself great company, no one else will either. They might see potential, but it's up to you to polish the product.
So, we made lists of stuff we liked doing. She liked rollerblading and hanging out at the beach. I liked theater and libraries. So, we found a place that had "date night" at the skating rink and started going there (I watched, she skated). We also volunteered to help on beach clean-up days, found a couple of local theaters that needed back stage volunteers, and a library that held monthly sales and wanted folks to help sort and stack books.
Bottom line is that we ended up being around people who had similar interests, and got out a lot more than we would have before making our lists.
What you need to do is to expand your options if you want to meet new people. And, if you're doing something that you like, you'll find people, including females, who like those as well. It's no guarantee that your future soul-mate is hanging at the local skating rink, but they are certainly not hanging out on your porch, hoping for free coffee.
And, as hard as it is to manage, what other folks have said about liking yourself first, is absolutely true. If you don't find yourself great company, no one else will either. They might see potential, but it's up to you to polish the product.
