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Why does the human race have to go through so much pain and anguish just to find true happiness with someone who cares about you? Why is it so hard just to find someone who gives a flying fuck about you? Why is it so hard to hold onto them for as long as you can, only in the end they fuck you over for fun? Why is it so hard to make it through my day? Because I'm alone with not a soul to talk to who cares.. Well, my parents of course.. but I feel awkward talking to my parents about this kinda thing.. so I'm turning to you "WTF'ers" for advice on what the hell I should do now..


I've been alone for over a year.. hating every second of it.. I really did care about my last girlfriend and she fucked me over in the end.. I don't have but 1 good friend.. and MAYBE 1 more who isn't that close and I never talk to her.. But friends aren't anything anymore.. virtually a meaningless word to most.. Whereas I charish my friend(s).. But I'm tired of just being a friend to everyone I've met and been good friends with for so long.. I just want more..

Why should I have to cope with reciving so little from them when I give so much?

I'm not an attactive person..

I'm not socially comfortable enough to just go walk up to random people and be like "Wanna hang out" and that shit...

I'm a "High School Dropout" working on getting my GED since Kansas school is to "preppy" for a lone goth kid to survive in.. and I can't fight for shit..


I moved to Kansas about a year ago and left all that I worked so hard to earn behind in Missouri.... so what now? Start over? For what? To get hurt again?

I don't know what to do anymore guys/gals.. Please give advice.. I know I didn't give you much to work with.. but i'm really not in a good state of mind and it's probably the best I can do.. :sad:


I just want to feel cared about.. as more than a friend..​
 
First of all what part of Kansas do you live in? If you live close enough to me, you could just hang with me and my friends, we always hang with new people.

Secondly, I know what you mean when you say that it is hard to find new friends after you got your GED. Especially if you moved to a new place right before you got your GED. One of my friends has the same problems. My only advice for you is to build enough confidence to meet some girls, whether it is just talking to some girl that might be interested, (It really doesn't matter if you're attractive or not) and with that relationship you can meet new people, and get some friends. If that doesn't work, then like I said if you live close enough you can hang with me, and I'll introduce you.

Also, I'm confused, are you saying that you want a girlfriend? Or that you just want more friends? Or both? The bottom line is that you feel left out of the social part of life. In order to get back in you are going to have to introduce yourself to new people, perhaps go to a mall, enter a store you like, and perhaps talk to someone about a simularity you have. You will be suprised how nice people can be.
 
I live in Shawnee Kansas..

I'm saying that I do want a girlfriend.. but I'm done with the transiton girls.. I want someone who I can be myself around and not have to worry about trying to impress all the time.. I'm also saying that I want more friends who I can also be myself around..
 
YoungYesrod does have a point, you do need to speak up around people. I have usually been socially awkward when it cam time to meeting people. I did find it easier once I got out of school and started with trade schools to learn somethign actually useful to me. It was a lot easier there because everyone there has something similar to me...class to learn the same trade as I am.

In your situation, what do you like to do? That can be a start to find people with somethign in common with you. Finding people to hang out with online can be also helpful. You just have to make sure you can feel safe meeting that person so meet in a public place that you are familiar with.

Just speak up. you may find a few morons that says stupid shit to you. Just ignore them. they are not your judge and jury....only you are of yourself.
 
I dunno.. i'm just not that kind of a person to walk up to random people.. well.. in my new place of residence I wouldn't.. getcha shot out here.. >_< At my old house I would.. if I felt like it.. but since I moved i've been having to deal with a lot that sent me feeling ... very low of myself.. SELF CONFIDENCE NOT ENOUGH OF! >_
 
Alright, your thread has caught the attention of just the right guy! Me.

Well here's the deal, bub. Even if you did manage to talk to a random girl, I know she wouldn't want to go out with you. Why? Your lack of confidence.

I'd say about 25% of girls out of high school don't care about they way you dress, as long as you don't dress poorly. That little joke in South Park about the shoes...it's absolutely true. If you're a goth, you really need to look like a classy goth. If you don't care so much about your social label, go with something else. It's hard to portray the image of high-class when you're dressing to fit a certain label.

Also, your voice is very important. Keep your tone low. It makes you seem masculine, girls like that. Also, don't speak too loudly when you're just with her. Always seem calm with the things you say, like you're in control.

Her friends are important, too. If she and her friends are there drinking a cup of joe, you need to make contact with them, too. You're entertaining them all, not just the one you want, but make sure she knows that she's the one you want.

Eye contact is also key. If you make sure you have eye contact with her, she'll know you mean business. Also, it makes you seem more confident.

Chivalry: It's not dead.
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How to tell if she's diggin' you.

Physical contact. Most girls that want you will make unnesicary (sp) physical contact, usually involving your arms. If she does this, look her in the eyes even HARDER! This will kick up a quick moment of passion.

Copy cat. Yes, it sounds funny, but it's true. If she does things you've just done, it's a sign of respect, something you must earn.

Walking in front of you. Yes, this is a manuever to get your attention, but only under certain circumstances. You can choose to ignore it or not.

There are many more, but the most ways to tell are just instinct. Deep down you'll know.
 
Why is it so many feel so incomplete because they're not in a relationship? Is there no other point to life? Is it peer pressure, TV, relgion, WHAT?!?! It's probably sex isn't it? Sure, you'll claim companionship but REALLY what you want is a constant sex partner. Have you ever actually lived with a woman? I don't know what you imagine it's like, well it's not like that, well it will be at first, but it will change.

It's entirely possible to live a life without a sex partner, I mean, girlfriend. The same applies for women, maybe even moreso.

The amazing thing is that if you would just stop the whining, figure out ways to just have fun, meet some friends, smile, enjoy yourself... you'd be amazed how just doing that might very well land you what you can't get now. If you're having fun, and interesting, suddenly you're a lot more attractive regardless of looks.

Fucking enjoy yourself. Make some friends, it's not impossible, but it takes effort. There are people who have interests that you have just waiting to meet you, and enjoy themselves. Use the net, take out an ad in the paper, go to a LAN party, there are ways!

The only person holding you back.... is You.
 
Stop jerking off. You don't feel the need to risk the embarassment of rejection because you're satisfying yourself. I bet within a week you'll meet a girl.

ps: I'm in a bad mood if you couldn't tell. Nothing personal.
 
I feel so imcomplete when i'm not in a relationship because I have nothing else, and it's all I want..

No it's not about the sex.. trust me.. Been there.. done that with my ex.. I personally think sex is over-rated.. =/ Maybe it was just MY sex that sucked and that's why I don't care for it..





1. I've tried the net.. I don't want a preppy girl.. i want someone like me.. "gothic" And there are hardly any around here.. that I know of..

2. I'm not in need of finding people enough to put an add in the paper.. Better yet. I don't think anyone in Kansas even reads the newspaper.. :D

3. The last Lan Party that I went to had a bunch of 400 Lbs. guys.. and 1 girl who was taken.. and again I didn't have the courage to just walk up to her and be like "love me" or something to that affect.. even though nobody says that.. you understood what I meant.. :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad:
 
So if you claim to not want sex... then just find a friend or three. Why does it have to be a female friend? Sex? (obviously)

If you're lonely make some fucking friends already. There's much more in life than Dating. If you've pushed yourself into a social corner, so that nobody "understands" you, then either MOVE, or Change your own shit to adapt to where you live.

Dating is not life. Don't believe the hype. It just sounds like you're stuck in the ever present, ever reaching, "Grass is always greener" syndrome. When you're finally in a relationship, down the road, you'll be all "Man I remember when I was single!"

Why is it you feel having a sexual partner will make your life better? Why is it ALL that you want out of life? Why are you consumed by it? You should look into that. Because, if you're "nothing" by yourself, then nobody will want you. Find some ways to enjoy life without dating.
 
I agree with JLXC to a certain point. Having a significant other is not everything. It's nice to have someone, but there should be other things in life that make you happy. Music, a hobby, friends, etc. Go hang out with your parents. Maybe the problem is that when you get with a girl, you're too clingy. Some girls are intimidated by that. Don't look for them, let them come to you. The unattainable guy is the most desired to be attained. Life thrives off of paradoxes.

I understand it not being all about sex. There are things besides doing the horizontal tango, that only couples can do. Try talking to your parents about it. You'd be surprised at the great advice they can have.
 
Needing someone in your life to make you happy is a lot of pressure to put on a person. It will almost always drive them away in the end. If you really want to be in a healthy relationship, there's someone you have to learn to love and live with first: yourself.

If you can't be happy and content in your own company, nobody else will be either.
 
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