Yes, i did my share of PT for 5 month after the surgery. I started again a month ago and could not do it:even stretch hurts so much now in that area.
I also can't stand for long, i can't seat for long (the area i call "tail bone" hurts terrible). Also very common symptom for SIJ is when you want to pick up your leg to get in a car or any movement which makes you lift your leg, twist a bit, shift your body - hip/spine/bottock is killing you.I also have stenosis, degenerative, arthritis - nice corabination, is in it?
I am at the point that i wish to have surgery done again just go be normal, just to be able to walk and have less pain. This is not life anyway, surgery may help to go back to normal - so that is how i feel and that is helping me to go through thougts about another surgery. I would rather go thru another one than to hear from a Doctor "learn to leave with it". This is really scary when they take your hope away...
I hope you will go to see couple of Doctors, it's very important to hear what they all have to say, and ask a lot of questions. You write them for yourself on a paper with all the symptoms and be ready to ask. Than you decide what do you want to do. Very important to know why do they suggest surgery, do they expect if it may be helpful in your case. It is very hard when it comes to your back - seems there is no one easy answer for you. But at the end of the day - you will get all your info in a place and will go from there.
It's easy to say "don't be scared", but in a reality you set your mind that this is only way to get better and you kind of talk yourself that everything will be OK. Just make sure you in a good hanRAB, make all your preparations at home and at work and you will be fine. I did my "homework" a month before my surgery: i put things in a closet to be reachable; cleaned kitchen cabinets and made sure all the things i will need are on a lower shelves, etc. It helped us very much.
You can read all this info on this board, people share their experiences before and after and it is very helpful. People here just great, God bless them all.
Good luck to you - we are always here to help!!!:wave: