I met a guy from Turkey last year when I was travelling and later on, we reconnected through MSN and became very good friends. We chatted frequently for almost a year. While he was very nice and sweet chatting with me and telling me things about himself, I found him to be overly too nice and affectionate. I have lots of men friends but none of them talked to me in such a romantic and sweet way. He told me that is how he talks and acts to all and many of his female friends and that maybe I have an issue with it. While I did'nt appreciate and agree with this reply, I let it go because I liked him and wanted to keep our friendship. As time passed, I found him to talk too sexually with me and found that he is constantly making comments on sexy photos of numerous women on Facebook. Of course, I wasn't his gf or anything to that matter, but was growing attached to him as a friend and this behavious bothered me a bit.
Still, I ignored it because i felt it was silly. Then last month, i noticed that he had online msn friends with porn profile pics. Keep in mind that he was anxiously talking to me almost everyday and had big plans of me staying with him in his friends house when I would visit his city.
His increase in being too affectionate with me and yet his wandering eye on other women and online entertainment, put doubts in my mind and I wanted to find out something about this man who called me his best friend but gave me the strong feeling that he was just after sex. So I googled his information online and came across his profile on an amateur porn website where he clearly wrote that he is looking for horny women and couples to have sex. He even has his photos of him and others doing the act on there. I was so disappointed and turned off at finding this that I didn't want to have anything to do with him.
I told him about it and at first he denied it, but when he saw that i had proof, he told me that this was his hobby and became very condescending to me and labeled himself as an "open-minded man" about sex!!!
Anyhow, I may have been a bit cruel to him in telling him that I didn't want to do anything with him and was really sarcastic to him which angered him and he replied with a nasty email telling me to get out of his life! (I was never in his life literally to begin with).
Anyway, I am questioning whether I overreacted or not? I thought i had these pure beautifu feeling about this person but feel very deceived and stupid now that i see what a horny mediocre person he is. All he likes is to look at naked women and talk about mundane things. On the other hand, I didn't want him to hate me but in a weird way, I think it was for the best.
What would you have done with a friend like this?
Still, I ignored it because i felt it was silly. Then last month, i noticed that he had online msn friends with porn profile pics. Keep in mind that he was anxiously talking to me almost everyday and had big plans of me staying with him in his friends house when I would visit his city.
His increase in being too affectionate with me and yet his wandering eye on other women and online entertainment, put doubts in my mind and I wanted to find out something about this man who called me his best friend but gave me the strong feeling that he was just after sex. So I googled his information online and came across his profile on an amateur porn website where he clearly wrote that he is looking for horny women and couples to have sex. He even has his photos of him and others doing the act on there. I was so disappointed and turned off at finding this that I didn't want to have anything to do with him.
I told him about it and at first he denied it, but when he saw that i had proof, he told me that this was his hobby and became very condescending to me and labeled himself as an "open-minded man" about sex!!!
Anyhow, I may have been a bit cruel to him in telling him that I didn't want to do anything with him and was really sarcastic to him which angered him and he replied with a nasty email telling me to get out of his life! (I was never in his life literally to begin with).
Anyway, I am questioning whether I overreacted or not? I thought i had these pure beautifu feeling about this person but feel very deceived and stupid now that i see what a horny mediocre person he is. All he likes is to look at naked women and talk about mundane things. On the other hand, I didn't want him to hate me but in a weird way, I think it was for the best.
What would you have done with a friend like this?