ok me and my gf and our son live upstairs in a house, her sister and her bf live downstairs, when we first moved in we were to pick wheather or not we wanted the upstairs or the downstairs, without an option we had to take the upstairs because her sister wanted the downstairs. her new bf who was "living" with us for over a month but paying no rent and utilities( not to much of an issue) has just moved in with her....downstairs.She is now bitching because she feels "restricted" to "her" house and wants to be able to come upstairs with her out of control son and hang out all day long destroying the space we keep clean and invading mine and my families privacy. it was made clear to her that i am very private and in the agreement to move into this house was that our families would be apart and living our own lives . the kitchen is upstairs and is a common area so it is ok that they come up and make dinners and eat like a family because i wouldnt want to take that away from anyone but it seems to be that she milks it out and makes an hour long procedure 3 or 4 hours, i dont say anything bc i would hate for her to show hostility towards her sister but i feel she is a moron. her new bf has been with her for 1 month and a half and they are trying to have a kid i guess but she has had a kid with a guy who left her because she is crazy and she thinks she has right to everything around here
am i being unfair by sticking to the rules and regulations we agree'd on or am i being unfair?
i mean i feel bad because she lets me park my harley downstairs in "her" space
Also i was complaining about her out of control son,he seems to influence my son to be a horror and i cant even get my sons attention when her kid is up here.is this my fault? does my son ignore me because of my parenting techniques? i try to let him do what he wants, i dont ignore him but i let him do what he wants and usually hes pretty responsible and very calm for a 15 month old baby without me being right by his side. basically am i being unfair? i dont want to be unfair so if i am i am willing to change for the better of my family and theirs
they plan on leaving, this is why i feel bad
andre so far i think your answer is the best
yeah im not going to spend money on there problem, the fact is that they dont really have a problem, andres answer is best because it represents who i am most, of course i feel bad but when u watch tv and see hungry kids do u pick up the phone
am i being unfair by sticking to the rules and regulations we agree'd on or am i being unfair?
i mean i feel bad because she lets me park my harley downstairs in "her" space
Also i was complaining about her out of control son,he seems to influence my son to be a horror and i cant even get my sons attention when her kid is up here.is this my fault? does my son ignore me because of my parenting techniques? i try to let him do what he wants, i dont ignore him but i let him do what he wants and usually hes pretty responsible and very calm for a 15 month old baby without me being right by his side. basically am i being unfair? i dont want to be unfair so if i am i am willing to change for the better of my family and theirs
they plan on leaving, this is why i feel bad
andre so far i think your answer is the best
yeah im not going to spend money on there problem, the fact is that they dont really have a problem, andres answer is best because it represents who i am most, of course i feel bad but when u watch tv and see hungry kids do u pick up the phone