I am male. My roommate is female. We dated/lived together for a few months but decided to be roomies. It is a financial arrangement--Nothing more. And we are both fine with that. We split all the bills 50/50.
Last night she advised me that her mother will be coming from out of town to stay with us for about 3 days. The more I think about it, it bothers me that she didn't ask if it would be okay with me first. Whenever I have family or friends over, I always 'okay' it with her first. For example: Just a few weeks ago on Father's Day, I mentioned to her I'd like to have my dad over for the afternoon, if that's okay with her. She was fine with it. To me, that's simply the courteous thing to do.
I just feel that if I am showing her courtesy by getting the okay for an afternoon, shouldn't she do the same??? Especially when her visit will be for 3 days?
The obvious 'answer' would be for me to sit down and have a conversation with her, voicing my concerns. However, we have NO communication AT ALL. If I try to mention something to her, she will either: a) say nothing and then be all pouty and depressed for 3 days or 2) do the exact opposite and lash out and attack.
Should I say something? Or just let it go and say nothing? Just curious what you all think.
Thanks
Last night she advised me that her mother will be coming from out of town to stay with us for about 3 days. The more I think about it, it bothers me that she didn't ask if it would be okay with me first. Whenever I have family or friends over, I always 'okay' it with her first. For example: Just a few weeks ago on Father's Day, I mentioned to her I'd like to have my dad over for the afternoon, if that's okay with her. She was fine with it. To me, that's simply the courteous thing to do.
I just feel that if I am showing her courtesy by getting the okay for an afternoon, shouldn't she do the same??? Especially when her visit will be for 3 days?
The obvious 'answer' would be for me to sit down and have a conversation with her, voicing my concerns. However, we have NO communication AT ALL. If I try to mention something to her, she will either: a) say nothing and then be all pouty and depressed for 3 days or 2) do the exact opposite and lash out and attack.
Should I say something? Or just let it go and say nothing? Just curious what you all think.
Thanks