Romantic Relationship Thread #27 ~ We All Want to Find Love

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I can see why you would want to try to keep the peace. But the longer you keep a secret, the more damaging the results are when it comes out, especially since it will seem that you have played with the truth to work to your own advantage regarding restrictions. This secret is already hurting you.

And it's just gonna make her parents even more angry with you when they find out that they have been tricked. Sadly, you will be the one who is blamed because her parents won't want to believe that their daughter was responsible for something they see as wrong. They will be likely to believe that you were the aggressor, even if the relationship is totally mutual. Since you were the one to tell the lie, you've put yourself in a difficult situation.

Even a perfect relationship can be destroyed by secrets and lies, and it doesn't matter if the secrets and lies are not between the couple. It's worse when family is involved because it is extremely rare that a partner will decide to side against family.

Someone wise told me this a long time ago and it's painfully true: the person who tells a lie becomes a slave to that lie.

Truth hurts at first but it doesn't hurt as long as the consequences from secrets and lies.

I'm just guessing, but is she a lot younger than you are? Is she of legal age for sexual consent? If she isn't, you really need to consider your actions very carefully. You don't want to jeopardize your future. And when love is real, it can wait and grow stronger by waiting.

I hope that you can find a way to resolve this. :hug:
 
If there are too many arguments, then there is a problem that needs to be resolved. Too much fighting isn't healthy for anyone.
 
Sometimes loving someone isn't enough. This guy is treating you badly; if a relationship begins that way, then it's only gonna change for the worse.

You have to begin by believing in yourself. When you do, you will attract people to you who will enjoy all of the good things that you already are.
 
^ For the record. I've magically gotten over him now. Something inside me just ticked about half an hour ago and I feel like I'm floating lmao :lol:
 
No problem :hug:

Um well the day lands on a sunday. Next Sunday in fact so I do want to spend the day with her do something but I have no idea yet :look:



Thanks for that Lem. Julie hasn't told her parents yet, and I don't blame her because some people really reject same sex relationships and her parents are that type. For the longest time it was an issue cause her mom suspected. But I pretty much lied and said there wasn't anything going on so her mom wouldn't hold any restrictions to the time we get to spend together, but it's still hard because i'm "the friend" which hurts but at the same time I'm not going to rush her to do something that is completly her decision and everything. So I don't know if it's healthy for us to have to hind, although my entire family knows all of our friends know its just the secret from her parents/family. I don't want to like leave and say this is BS because I think she is worth the wait.
 
Bad part is I told just pick one guy. A guy that would make her happy and well loved. She told me off about it too. She thinks I called her a well you know. Last night she told me if I wasn't her friend, I was nothing to her.

Frankly, I've been have problems too in my love life. I just got separated from my husband.
 
It depends. Fighting can be natural and fun in a relationship. My hubby and I fight atleast once a month. But, we also have a solid base of friendship and companionship and we know its not something lasting. It depends on the nature of the fights. If they are riproaring insults and throwing things then yeah its a problem.
 
Can too many arguments bring a couple apart? I know I still love my boyfriend to bits, but at the same time, I feel like there's something that's missing.
 
Lem- Thats good, sometimes exs just need to stay away. I hope my last ex never tries to contact me in the future.
 
Not at all sweetie :hug: One of my best friends is 19 and has never been in a relationship either. It's not uncommon. Just focus on being as happy as possible and that special someone will find you. People love other people who seem like they are enjoying life, so smile. Don't dwell on this. You'll have your turn, I promise :kiss:



My problem was that one of the guys I dated didn't seem to be all in for our long distance when I went to college far from him, and then later I was going to date this guy but he said only if I came to him. I'm not willing to put myself on hold and follow some guy at this point in my life. So I just said screw it. I'd rather be alone. :rolleyes:

Basically, my point is, it really depends on the other person. If they don't seem as into the idea, spare yourself the pain. But if they really want to continue and they seem to be proactive, go for it. Either way they could love you, but some people are very afraid of long distance because of the stereotype.
 
My boyfriend and I have gone to different universities and we haven't seen each other for like 3 weeks but we're both going home next Friday and I can't wait to see him!!
It's been harder than I thought, this long distance thing, but I know when we see each other again it will all be worth it!
Is anyone else here in long distance relationships?
 
We're not together anymore so I don't have that control over him. Turns out he hasn't got me a present anyway. What sort of a lad buys a present for an ex?



It's hard to stop talking completely seeing as we're coworkers. He likes a girl we work with, and he always talks about her. He knows she doesn't like him in that way but he still always talks about her. I'm not jealous but at the same time it's not right to talk about stuff like that. When I said I find it weird that he tells me, of all people about her, and that he wouldn't like it if I talked about a guy I met the other week(which I later wimped out of because I felt like I was cheating) he told me he didn't care. I WANT HIM TO CARE! I still love him yet I dislike him too because of how he is with me, if he's not civilly talking about the girl he likes, he's being an ass with me. I still love him and people are saying "give him time, he'll come back at some point" I just don't know if I can wait for that. I'd rather it be now.

What we once shared was magical and I know it can happen again. In the middle of our relationship I suffered from depression so that's obviously bound to mess things up. I became clingy and upset easily. Which pushed him away but now I feel better and ready for anything. I just want him to believe in me :(
 
My boyfriend of over a year and a half broke up last week as I was "clingy and posessive". Devastated doesn't even cover it. I know it's only 19 months but he's my first boyfriend and I fell for him hard. I tried meeting in person and he was horrible to me, then allright again. Then today he sent me song lyrics which seem to imply he still likes me (THE OFFSPRING - FIX YOU LYRICS) :( I'm so confused about his mixed signals :( Everyone thinks we'll end up getting back together but they don't want me to because this isn't the first time he's broken up with me. I really just want him to believe me, as I am willing to change the way things were. (I had depression, which is now healing and because of this I want to see my friends more) and we're working completely different shifts, meaning we'll be lucky to see each other, making it nice when we do. Ahh I'm so confused :(
 
I believe that McAwesome was offering her opinion on the situation. And, frankly, I agree with her.

While it is possible to be attracted to more than one person at the same time, being truly and deeply in love with more than one person is extremely unlikely because true love is a singular emotion.
 
awww :love: I went out of my way to send her a big bouquet of flowers and Ferrero Rocher heart shaped box on Valentines day delivered at her office :D.
 
It's hard to explain but it's something to do with timing. And, unfortunately, it turns out that I was right. But I didn't answer the phone.
 
:hug: He made a very good choice.

His sister sounds like a troubled person, and that's really sad.
 
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