Recently separated after 23 yrs and need advice on how to deal with my ex wife...

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...having sex with someone else? My wife and I are finally through. We are still married but have our own places and are moving on. The thought of her being with another man gives me great anxiety and pain. It's literally consuming me. I don't know if this is common with men or not. Any advice on how to move on will be greatly appreciated.
 
I'm in exactly the same place you are (except for the time, we've only been married for five years).

If you don't plan on getting back with her, find someone else and bang her brains out. Quit keeping an eye on your soon to be ex wife.You're seperate for a reason.

Edit: Since you were nice enough to friend me, I'll add to this :P

When my wife moved out a few months ago, I was heart broken, especially when our 6 year old told me about her "friend", and how they dated before she met me (not sure how my son knows this but what kid would make that up?).

I soon realized that she was too controlling and that I was happier without her. I still miss her, don't get me wrong. But life goes on, and so did I. I bought a PS2 and some games, made a female friend who enjoys me for who I am, and I got on with my life. It's been a month and a half, and it' s been the best month and a half of my life.
 
It's common with women too. I'm two years out of a split with my ex, who I was with for 11 years. Despite the fact that I know now that our splitting was inevitable and for the best, the thought of him sleeping with these other women he seems to have no trouble finding... makes me nauseas, jealous, insecure, depressed, angry, it makes me feel BETRAYED even though I know we're not together anymore. It's getting better though. A year ago I would cry at the thought... now I just don't like to think about it but it doesn't consume me as much. It's very normal. It's normal because she in essence was "yours" and off-limits to others for so long... and now that's out the window. You'll be fine. Hang in there. It's tough and many of us can relate.
 
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