recently lost my dog after 13yrs

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Hi i havent posted here in quite sometime i was coping fine with my anxiety. this past tuesday my dog chocolate died after having her since i was 7 im now 20, and now my anxiety is thru the roof. im having the usual racing HR sometimes with heart Palps. breathless feeling, chest discomforts. im pretty sure its just anxiety since i was fine up until my mom woke me to tell me my dog has died. I cried of course a lot tuesday and some on wednesday and got teary eyed today and thursday. my dog really was my best friend im happy shes never suffered she went peacefully in her sleep. anyone else go thru similar situations and had bad anxiety, or having any positive advice.

thanks in advance.
 
I'm so sorry for your loss. Your feelings are normal. You're grieving. She wasn't just a dog, she was a beloved meraber of the family. Maybe find a favorite picture of her and put it in a nice frame. It helped me when my last dog died to put together an album of his pictures and frame some of my favorites so his memory was never too far away. I'm so sorry again and glad she didn't suffer.
 
I am truly a animal lover. I have two beautiful cat's that I have had for many years, and know one day too I will have to face this.:( IT is not just a dog but a family meraber. I so much feel your pain and here is a big hug your way you need it.:(

Since it is close to Christmas maybe get one of your beloved dog's pictures and have a ornament made out of it, or maybe a mouse pad, so your dog is always looking after you, even in dogie heaven. And be so very thankful there was no suffering.......that would of really hurt you, I know it would me. Remeraber you dogie would NOT want you to be sad but always remeraber the good memories.;)

Hugs and write me if you want.......from one animal love to another. I am truly sorry about your loss, my thoughts are with you.

And PS................YES my anxiety would go through the roof for that is natural.............deep breaths for Chocolate would not want you to suffer or be sad.

PS. I am named himmylover after my Himalayan cat.....

Hugs!
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thanks for all the replies it really means a lot and i appreciate it.

we actually had an ornament made of her back when she was about 2yrs old so i put it that on the tree right in the middle and front where its easy to see.

I think also some of it is when my anxiety would be up just being with chocolate would calm me down now without her i dont know what im going to do. i mean i tell my parents when my anxiety is up and they try to calm me down by telling me everything is fine theres nothing wrong with you, you have been tested years ago your heart is fine. but for some reason that doesnt calm me down nearly as much as having chocolate with me.

i plan on getting a new dog in the spring or summer time i dont feel right getting a new one right now to me that just seems like im replacing chocolate and that doesnt sit well with me. plus its easier to train a dog in the spring because right now its snowing and freezing where i live.
 
I'm glad to hear you're opening your heart up to another animal in the future. Some people don't, they say it hurts too much to lose them, but the joy they bring to your life outweighs the sadness. I understand wanting to wait, you can never replace Chocolate, but you can honor her life and how much she meant to you by opening your heart up to another dog that neeRAB a home and a family. When I lost my dog Junior, I read a lot of books that helped me get thru the grief. One nice little book was called "For every dog an angel", and it explains how your friend wants you to be happy and when the time is right Chocolate would be happy to see that you're happy and making another dog happy. Also I read a book called Goodbye Friend. I suggest reading something like these books. They really help.
 
I have heard a really sweet saying that I hope will help you...

"You know when you have arrived in heaven when all the dogs you ever loved come running to greet you"

When it came time for my 16 year old dog to be put to sleep, I found a vet who came to our home and put him to sleep with all of us around him, with music playing and it was just beautiful, yet very sad of course.

The fact that your dear Chocolate passed peacefully in his sleep is a true blessing. i am happy you ahve a new dog in your future, and while you can never find a dog just like Chocolate, each dog brings with it the neatest personalities, the same unconditional love, and that wagging tail always there to meet you at the door.

Chocolate would not want you to suffer for a minute, so in his honor, grieve and take all the time you need for that. But becoming sick over this would not be what your sweet dog would ever want for you.

I know anxiety is very real, but we do have the ability to deny it from overtaking our lives. Death is part of life, and as hard as it is to imagine right now, time will take much of this pain away, just be patient with yourself and keep your family close to you,
 
thanks i will look into them.

something i forgot to mention we actually found chocolate on our back porch 13yrs ago she was a stray dog we dont know if someone just let her go or if she ran away on her own. we put up flyers called the local human society nothing turned up after 30 days so we kept her. she was frozen that day we found her it was mid winter. i think she was beaten she didnt have marks or bruises but everytime for the first year or so if someone picked up a newspaper she went running of course we never hit her.

but yeah im willing down the road like in april or may to get another dog to love and cherish.

thanks again everyone who has replied.
 
bless you and your family for taking her in and saving her life.
she repaid you with unconditional love.
 
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