Really need some suggestions: anxiety is getting in the way.

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Anxiety is part of my life.... When I was reallly young, I started to worry about dying young. But anyway, here's the problem.

My Dad became alcoholic when I was about 10 and my mom is a great woman. They did not get alone but they did not get divorced either, just because they wanted me and my siblings to grow up in a "healthy" family. When growing up, I was consitantly worried that they would get divorsed.

Now here I am, a grown up, 26-year-old, single woman. I am REALLY fearful about marriage. I am fearful that my future husband will treat on me, or just, maybe change like how my Dad became alcoholic. The fears are so strong that I have to stop going out with guys probably after my second date. And I don't even see guys any more.

I really want to find a boyfriend and live a happy life. But I can break though my anxiety and now I am depressed I can't see any hope in life any more....
Please feel free to give me any suggestion, and thank you for your patience to read this post.
 
I understand your fear. My parents got divorced when I was about 12. It was a bad situation my mother was very abusive and my father left us to live with her anyway. My father has been married 4 times, my mother was married 3 times. I've been happily married for almost 28 years, despite what went on when I was younger. So, it's possible for you too to find the right guy, get married and live happily ever after. Don't give up and deny yourself a happy life!!!
 
Thanks sunshine123. I am sorry about what you went through in your childhood. But I am glad to hear that you are having a happy marriage, this is very encouraging. Thanks :)
 
ACOA which is adult children of alcoholics hold meetings all over that may help you a lot. I have gone to them a lot and there is a lot of support and good advice.
 
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