Really down in the dumps

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Dexter Morgan

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Today I've been really down in the dumps. I'm getting really homesick. And just sick. I'm comming down with what's going to be a really bad head cold. I miss my puppies and my family. (Mainly just my parents.) I miss my own bed. And I just miss knowing where everything is. The quiet of the country around my house. I miss hearing the crickets as I fall asleep. But now I get to hear slamming doors and drunk upper classmen. Maybe going to college so far away from home was the wrong thing to do. Maybe college in general was the wrong thing to do. I don't know. I'm so tired of the food here too. I eat the same thing almost every day because there isn't much variety. We never have fish. (Which doesn't matter because I hate fish.) But they don't even have fruit most days. Or if they do have fruit it's under ripe or over ripe and just isn't appealing. I have some things in my room like apples and orange juice. But I just want to go home. Things were so much better and easier there. And my parents paid for everything. Speaking of which, I'm still job hunting. This all sucks.
 
Wow.

I never thought I'd hear you say you miss your family. :tongue:

I know what it's like to be homesick.

When I was in Surrey last year I got very homesick. I like this little town, even if there's nothing to do. :happysad:
 
If your down, maybe you should try and fill up your time? (If you have any, that is :P)

Join clubs, take up a sport, join a gym... there are heaps of college activity groups and stuff to get involved with, take advantage of them. By keeping yourelf busy, and hopefully having fun at the same time, you'll be able to push your homesickness to the back of your mind and, in the long run, enjoy the whole college experience more.

Hope you feel better soon, and good luck with the job hunt.
 
Darlin, everybody gets homesick when they go off to college. It's like, a rule. If you DONT get homesick, somethings wrong with you.

In my experience, it goes like this:

First week or 2, college is awesome. Classes just started, so there isnt much work, and you've met SO many new people.... etc etc etc...

After your classes pick up, and party time diminishes, and you start spending more time alone in the library or in your room, your thoughts start to turn towards, "i wonder what my friends back home are doing", or things of that nature.

Believe me, this homesick stage wont last too long. You'll either A) get swamped with work that you dont have time to feel homesick, and then on the weekends you just relax, give your family a call, and watch a movie with a friend.

or B) You'll start drinking heavily, let your grades go down the tubes, and then relax on the weekends from drinking, give your family a call, and watch Animal House with a friend.

:) You'll be aite.
 
Mags, the more you tell yourself that you are miserable and miss home, the more true it becomes. Just put a smile on your face, not the plastic kind, not the one you do when your nervous but don't want anyone to know it, put a genuine smile on your face, a spring in your step, and face your challenges one by one. Sometimes you'll want to quit but if you do, it won't make things any better. Most of all, DON'T WORRY. What the hell do you plan to accomplish doing that?
 
I dunno. Thanks for trying to cheer me up guys. I wanted to go home this week, but I have too much with classes and RHA meetings. Then next weekend is my birthday and I wanted to go home and spend it with my family, but my BF has things planned to do around here I guess. So when I told him I wanted to go home he got kind of sad cuz then we couldn't do what he had planned. I'm torn.
 
can't your bf go back home with you and do some of his b'day treats there?

or.. have two b'days.. lots of long distance people do..
 
I think its better to be misserable for four years than regretting it your whole life and making minimum wage workin in mcdonalds at like 35.
 
Find out the best part about your school, enjoy it, and soon you'd be dying to go back there everytime you're on breaks. Right now, I'm just dying for the beaches, late nights, and the chicks tanning in their two-piece. So start getting out more!
 
You should be taking a different perspective on this. I know right now it probably seems like an all-consuming sadness that you're experiencing, but you need to think about the advantages of your situation. This, I would imagine, is your first time living away from home for an extended period. This is a good thing, it's your first sgnificant step towards independence. Try to think of all the things you've wanted to do in the past but felt restricted by your family at home. You're the boss now. If you mess up, so what? It's a learning curve everyone has to go through, and you'll be better for it. You should try to concentrate on the positive things in College, maybe you'll even enjoy yourself:question:
 
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