Question for those that are against premarital sex?

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what happens if he's terrible in bed, and you only find out on the wedding night?
i mean like horrible beyond repair...
i know it shouldn't just be about sex, but sex is a vital and necessary part of a relationship
please don't make assumptions about my age or marital status....
gelfling--my thoughts exactly
 
tHERE IS'NT MORE THE LOVE THAN SEX SEX IS LOVE.
THINK ABOUT IT WAY ELSE WOULD YOU LOVE SOMEONE

PS; I DONT BELIVE IN LOVE OR MARRIGE or ghosts
 
Then you just live with it because your life and love for eachother shouldnt just be about sex, If it is your married for the wrong reasons and if worst comes to worst and he is, he can learn, and you can help eachother learn. Especially with something like that, it can easily be changed with practice.

Of course its a vital part of a relationship, anyone that says otherwise doesnt know what their talking about. But Its also very easy to know what your partner wants and needs just by communication, if your married youd be able to tell him what you need from him sexually. like i said its so easily fixable.
 
I would NEVER marry someone unless I had had sex with them first. Sex is way too important to a successful relationship to risk ending up with someone who is incompatible. I wouldn't do that to myself, and I wouldn't do that to my spouse. How many people would buy a car without test-driving it, or comparing it to other cars?

I like knowing that my spouse has had enough sexual experience with others to know what else is available and knowingly CHOSE to marry ME (whether because of or despite that). Our relationship and "first time" are not any less special just because we hadn't signed a marriage license before we had sex.

The OVERWHELMING majority of divorces are CHRISTIAN couples, partially because of the prudish "abstinence until marriage" rule. Millions of couples get married way too soon, just so they can (finally admit they) have sex. Then they figure out they aren't very compatible, sexually or otherwise.
 
Well, if you are going to judge him on his performance the first night I hope you won't mind if he leaves you because you burnt the first meal you cooked for him.

If you REALLY loved him sex would not be the most important issue.
 
Well, since there's no rule that says I can't answer anyway, I must say that marrying before you have had sexual experience of one another is foolish in the extreme. And I'm not just talking about one or the other not being "good at it." I mean you don't really know each other if you have not had that experience. After all, skill in pleasing one another is very personal; he may have been great for a former girlfriend, but not for you. But if he wants to learn what pleases you, and does it just the way you like because he wants to please you, then you are more inclined to do what pleases him.

Smart men make good lovers for that very reason.
 
I was talking with a friend of mine a couple weeks ago. Her first relationship was horrible as far as sex goes. Her second was great, they got married, have 2 kids, and still go at it 4 nights a week.

Though if you are against pre-marital sex, you're probably not going to have sex for any purpose except children. So it won't matter to you.

It's not worth spending a lifetime with someone you can't share physical pleasure with.
 
Well, if a marriage is broken because he's lousy in bed he must not really have any other qualities you enjoy. So it begs the question, why in the hell would you marry some guy you don't even like?

Not to mention if you don't know the difference between sex with a random person vs sex with someone you really care about, you really wont get any other answers here.

The person could be God-awful in bed but you don't care you're expressing your love with that special someone you always dreamed about and if it's coming off that wedding day high. He could be across the room and you'll still get off. lol
 
This has been asked and answered many times. If it is done right and by God's standards, not our own, he will be a wonderful sex mate and even greater husband.

Don't let sex be your only motivation because when it's blessed and upright, ALL will be good and worthwhile.
 
If you are a virgin, you will never know the difference. Really, what woman had good sex the first time? It could be a beautiful experience learning together. God bless.
 
Christians will say love and God blah blah.

But the fact is, sexual compatibility is really important, in fact its a leading cause of divorce.

People should absolutely make sure they are sexualy compatable before marriage.

Me and my wife (Atheists) had sex on our second date, were going on 20 years of a fantastic marriage, and still going strong.
 
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