Question about sex. (graphic)?

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So, me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year now, but have only had sex for the past 2 months (I was a virgin before).

The thing is, I haven't ever had an orgasm?
It's not size, trust me, that's no issue.
I just don't really ever get off?

What can we do to help? I don't want to flat out tell him hey, you aren't doing the job. Help please?

Thanks, serious answers only!
 
It's only been a couple months. He'll get better over time.

Try more foreplay before sex.
 
Honestly he can't give that to you. You need to learn what gets you the most hot and THEN show him. Otherwise he wil be guessing and you will be guessing and nothing might happen for a long time. You have a few spots on your body. The G-spot and clit


There are a few other places all over, but I entreat you to find out for yourself. Don't just go through the motions of having sex. Learn to feel everything and eventually you will "get off"

Learn as much as possible. Sit in the "erotic" section in your book store for details. Believe me, you will learn a few great helpful things. Good luck. Tell him he can help. Say this "Baby, I think we should try focusing on my pleasure because I know you will get off either way, but this way we can both enjoy it in its full potential". If he doesn't know anything is wrong he won't make an effort to help or change.
 
most girls dont orgasim during sex, just fake it. like on pornos!


i wouldnt know,, im a virgin! teheeee
 
Do you feel good, without?
Get your BF to play attention to foreplay,
and to caress more, explore your body together and find the places that give you pleasures when he touches you there. Do you know your own body?
Take a mirror and investigate. remember that it takes two, so talk with him, he will listen! if not it's a lost cause!
 
honestly, if you aren't orgasming during sex, that is a huge problem. my advice is to explore with yourself. don't take this like a child, but if you find out what you like, then it'll be easier for you to tell him what you like. you could try using toys and find the spots that feel best, and point them out to him. or take his hands in you, and move them to the good spots. you could even try different positions, get on top and give him a ride, you have total control, and can hit it dead on, if he's smart, he'll find that spot on his own after a while, and hello happy sex life.(;

hope i help.
 
Sounds like you need to be very open with your boyfriend and tell him that you need to learn about your body better and ask him for his help! There are many, many people out there that have never had an orgasm - you are not the only one sweetie!

My biggest advice is to get involved in sex... have you tried stimulating your clitoris DURING sex? MOST women orgasm this way. It's not very common for women to orgasm only vaginally. It takes some practice and patience... and the help and understanding of your boyfriend. Communication is key and remember that there's nothing wrong with you - you just need to do some researching and find what works for you. Spice it up! Go to a sex store together and get a vibrator to incorporate into your lovemaking. Chances are he'll enjoy it as much as you!
It also sounds like if you learned how to have an orgasm on your own, you'd know how to guide yourself to it during sex. Keep an open mind and don't be scared away from the idea of masturbation - both of you can get involved!

Hope this helps!
 
The problem is neither one of you know what you are doing. Get a good book on the art of lovemaking and read it, both of you. After only two months you still have no real experience to draw on, and don't think for a minute if you do it once or twice you know it all.. it's not true. I've been having sex for 35 years with maybe 100 different women and I keep learning new and interesting things. Two months is not enough time to find out much of anything, and if you are both the first partner for each other it is like the blind leading the blind. I have found the women who are the most fun are the ones who have had the most experience.
 
Perhaps his skills are lacking or you're not relaxed enuf to enjoy the pleasures that you deserve. Size shouldn't be an issue at all.

You need to experience total fullfillment, so prepare yourself mentally for it. Let yourself relax and concentrate on what you are actually feeling. Your mind and body need to work together on this .It really can make a difference. Communication is a great part of that also. Talk about things with your partner so that you both know what the other one's needs are. Otherwise how else could you possibly know?
 
try masturbating on your own,learn about your body.try rubbing your clit and fingering yourself and even watching some porn.When you start making yourself cum then it will be easier for him to make you cum
 
I have sex since I was 16 Im 19 now I have a couple of different partners and I have never gotten off so I asked my stepmom like hey am I broken or something and she told me most women dont have orgasims until like their late 20s and on. So its normal its not that yall are doing it wrong...its like females are tricky and have certain buttons you have to push I guess is what you could say. Guys are so easy to get off.....everythings so easy for them its not fair lol
 
You have to tell the guy "HEY!!!YEA YOU!!! YOU ARE NOT!!!!>.< MAKING MY VAGINA VERY HAPPY MISTER!!!"

jk lol.

maybe you guys should try some new sexual things =3
 
Have him try stimulating you manually and orally on your clit. Do you know how to get yourself an orgasm? If so, then show him how you do it. Also, try researching different positions that help women get orgasms during sexual intercourse. In my experience, orgasms with him inside me, is a lot different (and not as explosive) as it is when I orgasm through my clitoris, but every woman is different.
The best way for him to be able to give you an orgasm is if you, yourself, know how to give yourself one which will allow you to show him. I've been having sex with my current boyfriend for almost 5 months now and we're still learning the best ways to please each other.
When you make suggestions, try to be gentle as not to damage his ego. To make him feel better about making so many suggestions if to ask him for tips on how you can be better so it doesn't seem like your such the expert on getting him off.
Also, kudos to you for making him wait until you're ready. When I was a virgin, I also made my boyfriend at the time wait awhile before we did it!

Best of luck in your sexual adventures! Haha.
 
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