question about my mother in law and my baby.?

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Sara

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She doesn't come around too often. The day I had Carter and a total of 3 times since to our home in almost 5 months. Anyway.. Last night after 10 pm she shows up and brings 4 ppl with her. First off all thank god I cleaned. lol But seriously, not only was i wanting to go to bed, not make coffee and be hostess, she wanted the baby up. At first I said no! After a half hour I handed him sleeping to her. She tried everything but thankfully carter was out like a light and wouldn't have it. Otherwise it would have made for a long night. Am I wrong to feel angry she came in here like im the granny and do what i say then guilted me into handing him over so she could see him and play?
 
no ur nt wrong she dusnt come often den finally shows up n mkes yu treat her and her frnds 2 cofefeee
 
I would be angry too. That was too late and she was too demanding. I would send her a text, letter or e-mail asking her to ring before she next comes over, and to make any future visits earlier as you and baby need your sleep!
 
First of all 10pm is too late to show up at someones door unannounced especially when u have a baby sleeping. It was selfish of her to suddenly feel like taking part in your childs life and wanting to wake him while he was sleeping. Did she have a drink in her or somethin? I would have been angry also, maybe not for her coming cause u have to be nice to ur inlaws/family but its really not fair on the child. did ur partner not say anything? Bringing 4 people to ur house unnancounced was also a bit out of order.
 
First i would have your husband mention something to her, because the last thing you want is her playing the "daughter in law" card. If she has a problem with the way your husband handles it, then just sit her down and talk to her like the adults you both are.
Explain that it's tough being a new mom and it's your house and your rules. You respect her, but think that 8pm is the latest company should be allowed to come visit Carter.
If she still resists, then I would wait til 11pm and bring carter to her to stay the night. Make sure he's awake. You and you're hubby can go out and have a ball and let her see what happens when an infant is kept up late.
=) Hope this helps!
 
no! shes being a total bitch. if she wants to see the baby, tell her to come over in the afternoon, not 10pm, and as for the fact she tried to wake him up, thats just out of order. if that ever happens again, dont open the door! lol
 
I would not have invited her in - a simple ''Its 10pm at night, Carter is in bed, and thats where I am now going'' would have been sufficient.

I would have called her in the morning setting rules such as, no visits after 7pm (especially unannounced), always clear visits with me a day in advance along with any others you wish to take to my home.

No way would I have gotten the baby out of bed. Stand your ground or she will walk all over you. And actually, she is your IN LAW, therefore you are well within your domain to tell hubby to deal with this, his family, his territory.
 
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