Question about good sex in a relationship?

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I'm feeling like the sex my fiance and I have isn't the same anymore. I have never been one to make noise during sex, I guess I feel like I'll embaress myself, but I feel like I need to. My fiance says he feels like I'm not attracted to him because I never initiate sex... I just go along with it when he wants it. We have an 8 month old son and I work full time, so I am real tired. I just want us to be able to have GREAT sex again. I don't think I know how to let me gaurd down and just be crazy in bed, as much as I'd love to. How do I do this?!
 
start by going to a lingere store and going crazy. buy things that make you feel really sexy. then, tonight, or some night soon, make a special dinner with wine and when ur kid is asleep put on a little fashion show for him. the initiating sex part is really important because that way he knows you want to. if ur tired.....suck it up!! sex gives you endorphins that will make you no longer tired and ur man happy. good luck
 
I think you may be too focused on him. If you just enjoy sex yourself he will enjoy it as well. All us guys are looking for is a partner who enjoys it as much as we do. Do you ever feel horny but it's just not a convenient time? Well, make it convenient...do what you have to to "seize the moment". Good luck.
 
just let go, he will love it. i was ALWAYS quiet, and its not much of a turn-on for guys, but if you really want to make it good for him and you, just let go.
 
Cut yourself some slack, sweetie. Just tell your husband that he's lucky he's getting any at all. Full time job and and 8 month old? For crying in a bucket you two are doing great if you're having sex at all.
 
Children and relationships do not go hand in hand. A lot of great marriages have gone to the way side due to exactly what you have described.. You need alone time. To do that you are going to have to be willing to have a sitter for the entire weekend and you and your fiance get out by yourselves for relaxation. Being tired, with child is a given. But it's also a given that YOU can find a way to refind your self and your mate before it's to late for the both of you
 
Initiating Sex doesn't mean you have to do all the work... The answer could be as simple as you passionately kissing him and grabbing his crotch once a week... he will take it from there... your issues could stem from simply differences in sex drive, to medications that may effect the way you feel about sex.. try to remember, women are emotional beings, men are physical.. women want to be romanced.. listen to his concern, and be more physical in your relationship, take time to educate yourself and learn how to please "him", ask him what he wants... he will tell you. Good luck
 
Baby BEFORE wedding? You have a six month old? And you are wondering what happened to the great sex? It went with the pregnancy, the full time job and never initiating the sex for yourself. My dear, relationships change, sex changes over time. Your responsibilities are much more than when you started out. Love is not just about sex, its about understanding your partners needs and desires, as well as your own. Try breaking out of your SCHEDULE a little and trying some different approaches. You don't have to ride a horse naked in the park to get your mans attention, but a little perfume and sexy dress and some candles can help to signal your man you are INTERESTED in having an evening of passion! Start small, and work up to throwing him down on the bed and screaming "TAKE ME!". Having the Grandparents do a little caretaking of junior, will help to keep your inhibitions down and your passions up! GO FOR IT! Good luck!
 
Start faking it a little. Just so he feels a bit encouraged. You are tired because of the baby so don't put pressure on yourself to enjoy sex!
ENJOY REST AND SLEEP!

You need to explain to your fiance that the sex will be FABULOUS if he helps out more with the baby and the house. Try not to sound like a nag. Instead try and make him feel like you are missing the grrrreat sex you both used to enjoy!!

When you make sex the motive he will follow with his tongue hanging!!
 
A glass of wine or a couple beers can go a long way in helping you get over your inhibitions with your fiance. Once you liven up one time in bed and see the reaction you get from him for letting yourself go, it won't be so hard the next time..
 
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