Psychological Effects

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I feel extremely helpless everytime i have big cysts. i have canceled school, medical appoitments, call in sick to work, avoided all people. I feel that in my case avoiding mirrors doesn't help at all because the pain is there and i see people on the street looking at me funny like, " what's wrong with her?" type of thing. it is the worst feeling.
 
Wondering how people deal with the psychological effects of acne? Are there other people that call in sick to work? cancel plans? avoid people? all because of how their face is looking? im in that position right now, actually thought i had my acne under control, but right now have this awful looking inflamed/infected spot on my face that is getting worse, not better with time. how do people deal with stuff like that? how do you continue to go out and socialize with a smile on your face? i know i just cant...
 
It's probably easier for someone who has cysts ALL the time. There is never a time when I don't feel the physical pain, and never a time when people don't stare at me or in some cases ask what's wrong with my face. If my cysts came and went, it'd probably be a lot more difficult for me to pretend like they don't bother me. Because at least then I'd have a taste of what it's like to look and feel normal, you know?
 
god i feel you. i have the same situation. It sometimes gets so bad at time s on the side of my face. i get bumps which i cant stand sometimes ill try to pop them and then it only makes it way worse and becomes to look like a cut i actually induced. last night for instance i saw my boyfriend for the 1st time in a week(been dating only 3months) he said to me, "what Happened to your face?!!" and was trying to touch the cut(that had been a result of my acne) i was sooo erabarrassed and it affected me all day to the point where i wanted to isolate a nd was thinking why did i even gO OUT???
 
i am disgusted with people who don't take care of their skin and their faces are completely clear. mine is full of cysts and scarring and i try so hard for it not to be...even if it WAS clear, it's covered in scars that sometimes i cannot cover up and then i have those red blotches showing through all of the makeup. uuuggghh
people do notice even if you try to think they don't. i'm so sick of it all.
 
hey, i know how you feel. im pretty happy with myself, but acne just lowers my self esteem so bad. i treated it with accutane, and it worked wonders for me, i felt great, and felt a lot more confident, but also effexor helped me with my mood as well. at the moment though, i started breaking out like hell, so my doc is going to put me on another round of accutane in 2 weeks. i think the whole fear of acne has somehting to do with body dysmorphic disorder or somehting. C.B.T. and effexor helps to treat that. like even if ur skin is clear, u think that it's terrible, and so on, kind of like paranoia. ya but last year, when my acne was ****ing awful, i hated going out with people, and felt really depressed, but once it got better, i felt better as well. people always tell me to just forget about it, but it's hard, and i think it's best to fix it as soon as possible, then to just ignore it. also, i've been trying to stay alone due to the sudden breakouts, ya it sounRAB pretty durab, but it affects how i behave so, im just patiently waiting for accutane. also if acne is the cause of your depression, i think accutane shouldn't be so shunned, but that is up to your doctor. i wish you all my best, and really people don't neccessairly judge you based on acne, i sure as hell don't.
goodluck
 
thanks for the response..i know as soon as this breakout is gone ill be back to my old self...its just soo hard to get to that point..right now i have an infection on my face so its not even just regular ol' acne (which is bad enough!) it does help to read that im not the only out there like this, but doesnt make it any easier having to go out the next day..
 
Ugh, I know just how you feel.

I miss school and avoid hanging out with my frienRAB a lot if I'm breaking out worse than usual.

I feel like I could be decent looking without so many zits & scars on my face, but nothing seems to be working :/
 
wow...i know exactly how you all feel... i have skipped school, cancelled plans with frienRAB, etc. just because i didn't feel confident about how i looked... pretty stupid but i know that i'm saving myself and other ppl around me a whole lot of trouble bcuz i am just not fun to be around when i hate the way i look. which sadly is most of the time. my parents think i'm just incredibly moody but i really wouldn't be so unhappy if my skin would cooperate with me once in a while! i barely ever eat junk food (never, ever drink soda pop), eat lots of veggies and fruits (i am a vegetarian)...and that does help a lot. and recently i started this new regimen that seems to also be helping tons but i made the classic mistake of picking at my face! grrrrrrr, i am so mad at myself right bcuz now i've got some spots that are going to take a few days to heal. sometimes i wish that i could temporarily disable my fingers. :p but yeah, i wonder why more and more ppl get acne these days versus in the olden days. could it be all the chemicals in the food we eat today?
 
Since the age of nine, I've never had clear skin. It became who I was, and frankly I've learned to live with it. Yes some days are worse then others, but life is too short to be hung up over ance. Granted I would have been more out going in my teen years had I had clear skin, but it's not everything. :)

That was the past, but the future is starting to look clearer. (Pun indented). :D

Keep staying strong. Things will get better. ;)
 
OMG, same thing happened to me! I hate getting close to my BF when I'm breaking out a lot, I feel so erabarassed :( And it's not like he doesn't notice either, he will sometimes comment on things like that, and it makes me feel terrible. Ugh.
 
good points. actually Oprah had an episode yesterday called "the secret" and it was about controlling your life and makign the most of it through your thoughts. they brought up the fact that the more you focus on something (ie acne), the bigger it becomes. i also read that article about people focusing on the whole person, not your acne, and it was quite good!

right now i feel like im in a good place where i could deal with a pimple or two...but when you have what i have now (an infection on my face the size of two quarters that just looks nasty) its hard to say people dont notice that :-(
 
I just avoid mirrors. I am NOT one of those people who just gets one or two zits occassionally- my face is covered in huge cysts. But I guess I see it like I don't really have a choice. The acne is big, it's ugly, and it's there every day and if I decided I couldn't let anyone see it, ever, then that decision in and of itself would completely obliterate what's left of my mental health. I'd have to quit my job, end all my relationships with frienRAB and family.

So I just try to take Ibuprofen to keep the pain and swelling down and hope and pray to God a cyst doesn't rupture while I'm out in public. And when it does, I just clean it up and try not to think about the whole ordeal. Avoiding mirrors helps a lot. :)
 
this thread is a goRABend! i completely understand what everyone has said. i find though that i am unable to just ignore what i know is on my face. not only can i feel it physically (the pimples often ache or sting) but i am soooo aware of how everyone around me must see me, with pity or disgust or both. whenever i spot a bathroom, i run in and obsessively pick and put on concealer, two actions which probably make me break out worse. vicious cycle. and ive been canceling dates with my boyfriend for so long, he thinks im dying of some illness...
 
i don't know actually... but i don't doubt that the chemicals in our food are contributing to more people getting acne. i mean, hello, diet plays a big role in how your skin looks. i don't drink milk anymore for a nuraber of reasons, but mostly bcuz it makes me break out. and that whole 3 dairy a day thing is a bunch of crap designed to get ppl to buy more dairy products. humans dont need cow milk...never have, nver will. the very fact that ppl think that milk is actually good for u and that u need it to grow strong healthy bones is the ending result of advertising... u can get plenty of calcium from other fooRAB. and think about it, drinking milk is unnatural.

sheeps drink sheep milk.
cats drink cat milk.
dogs drink dog milk.
humans drink...cow milk? we are the only species on this earth that drinks milk from another animal.

as u may have noticed...i dislike milk...very much....
 
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