pregnant and in abusive relashionship, want to leave?

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22 yrs old and 6 months pregnant and boyfriend is getting more and more abusive by the day. It is to the point I feel suicidal and like I am going crazy. I am not allowed a phone I have no car, no friends no nothing. I am supposed to stay home and clean and do my womanly duties. laundry, sex etc. Sometimes I sneak and use the internet. I really need to leave because I am fed up and need to protect my baby who is due in 3 months. He is very violent and I need to leave the state immediatly but dont know how. I have no friends and no money, I have been isolated and treated like a prisoner. How can I leave the state and where will i go. i dont know how I let this happend. plz no neg comments, only someone who can offer great advice so that I can be safe and unharmed with my baby. I am so deserate for change but I know he will find me if I stay in the state of nc
 
I'm so, so sorry this is happening to you. No one deserves that kind of treatment. Obviously, you have your head on straight and realize that you need to get out right away. Contact some friends and family and let them know your plan. For example, if you're stuck and he's around and you need help immediately, create a code work, like "banana" to let the other person know you're in danger.

Does he work? Make a plan where you can wait until he goes to work and get out. Go to the police department, fill them in on all of the details. If you have any documented evidence (like journal entries or photos), this will help as well. They will be able to at least get you a restraining order and can also point you toward a shelter in your state or in another. There are actually a lot of shelters that no one knows about and are extremely hard to find, so that should ease some of your worries. Then you need to press charges. As I'm sure you're aware, not everyone obeys restraining orders, so do the maximum to keep him away from you.

Again, my heart is with you. Pleae remember, you are in no way to blame for this. It's not anything that you did or didn't do. You are an innocent victim and nothing else. It sickens me when people blame the woman for staying when she's scared out of her mind. God bless you and your baby.
 
Walk to a neighbor's house. A police station. Fire station. Tell the mailman if you have to. If you knocked on my door, I'd offer you a place to stay. Call your family. YOU ARE NOT TRAPPED!!! Police can hook you up with organizations that can relocate you. Please act on this for your safety and the safety of your child.
 
yep hes gonna kill you so leave before its to let then get a divorce and take have of what he owns. (you are married right???)
 
I'm very sorry to hear this. Do you have friends anywhere else. You need to get away from him asap before he kills you.

If your interested you can come down here to georgia and stay with us /: yahoo messenger me if you'd like to chat. I'm here for you.
 
Just walk out the door and leave. Go to a payphone and call the police. It won't cost you a thing.
 
Go to a police station, explain your situation, and ask them about shelters for abused women. Or, if you have any family who will take you in go and live with them (again, explain your situation).

Good luck.
 
You need to leave NOW! Before he stresses you out or hurts you and your baby to the point of a miscarriage. You're not married to him, so LEAVE HIM. Seek help at a womens shelter for abused women or move in with a relative and file a restraining order. Your still young and have a son to take care of, you don't deserve this. Also once you're in a safe location, press charges and get that a-hole locked up behind bars where he belongs. I guarentee you, he'll get whats coming to him there. "What goes around, comes around"
 
It is very important that you get out of the situation ASAP. I was in a situation like this, and was very lucky to escape with my life. I finally got up the nerve to leave, but it wasnt until I had been beaten and robbed of all self worth and esteem. You need to get out before something bad happens to you, and eventually your child. If the child is raised around abuse, the brain will not develop correctly, and the child is likely to have emotional/depression/anger issues as an adult. I should know, some of my first memories were dometstic violence, and I ended up getting with an abuser myself. Anyway, I am in California, so I called a domestic violence hotline in NC, and they said that if you call them, they can help direct you to a shelter in your area. I know a shelter does not sound great, but it is one of the only ways to get away from an abusive man safely. Here is the number, 704 788 2826. I hope that you will find the courage you need to protect yourself. Email me if you need anything jennl46@yahoo.(If you have no phone, email me and maybe we can work something out, you may be able to contact a shelter thorugh email or something, but first I need to know that you really need help.I will check my email tonight and tmw)
 
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