I have a little sister who is extremely talented in a sport (tennis she's been playing for 8 years). She's So talented that, 9 of the top 10 coaches in the country who have seen her say she has the talent to turn pro right now if she worked hard. She travels around and plays against the top girls in the country. Everyone is amazed when they see her play, they wonder why she hasn't turned pro yet. But when it comes to tournament play, she cracks under pressure its like she doesn't even know how to hit a ball. In fact ,you can tell she doesn't put her hardest out, she even admits it and doesn't know why she does it. She works so damn hard on her own before tournament play. To the point her coach tells her to relax a little bit. I don't know how she can work so hard then give up when the pressure hits. We've never put pressure on her to play its been her own choice, I don't get it? Can you explain it? I know she loves the sport and want to turn pro by all the hard she does on her own. But when she competes she doesn't try her best and looks scared. All I want is for her to try her best, why doesnt she?
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she feels under pressure even if you aren't putting it on her. she is probably putting it on herself!! its cause she wants it so bad, she is really afraid of failing, so its easier just to give up. i know it doesnt really make sense, but i know how she feels. when you know you should be able to do something & you really want it, you are so worried about not getting it that you crack under the pressure. clearly it is counter-productive, but the stress of wanting to do well is sometimes very hard to deal with.
i don't know what the solution is, but probably lots of support & encouragement - build up her confidence & maybe start with easier tournaments so she can work her way up to the higher standard ones gradually, rather than starting in the deep end. this might help her to get used to it.. if she is still young, she might just get better at handling it as she gets older.
those are just some suggestions, but as her sister you probably know best how to help her. you sound like a really great sister, so just try to talk to her about it & try to work out what the source of the problem is, that way you can figure out what to do about it. dont give up on her!
good luck
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i don't know what the solution is, but probably lots of support & encouragement - build up her confidence & maybe start with easier tournaments so she can work her way up to the higher standard ones gradually, rather than starting in the deep end. this might help her to get used to it.. if she is still young, she might just get better at handling it as she gets older.
those are just some suggestions, but as her sister you probably know best how to help her. you sound like a really great sister, so just try to talk to her about it & try to work out what the source of the problem is, that way you can figure out what to do about it. dont give up on her!
good luck
xxviva argentina
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shes really nervous
tell her that each match she wins you'll give her something like a reward!
tell her that each match she wins you'll give her something like a reward!