Please help..

[aweeze]

So here goes..
I'm asking for help on behalf of someone close to me.

She has suffered with anxiety, depression,and perhaps other mental problems which i do not know about.

Over the past two years or so she has slowly gotten herself housebound and does NOT like to go anywhere.

And when i say anywhere i mean, ANYWHERE!! Which is a major step back from what she used to be like.

She was always very outgoing and loved going out socialising etc, but now practically nothing.

She does on the rare occasion go to her parents house and her partners parents house but that is all.

She told me the other day she cried before she came out the house and did not even want to go out..


On a positive note, she has made some progress as she has started going to her parents for a few hours once a week, but this has only happened three times.

She does drink alcohol to take the edge off her nervousness and she knows this isnt good for her, also she will NOT go to the doctors to seek help as she is very proud and doesnt want to be pushed off with tablets, even though they wont force this on you she still wont go, but i personally feel she neeRAB the helping hand. And perhaps to chat with a doctor?

I have offered to go with her and that doesnt help sadly.

I don't know what else to do. You cant force things onto people,but she neeRAB help

Has anyone been through anything similar or had someone close to them go through this?

 

[Archimedis]

I think your doing a great job, your right you can't force the issue on her. It will only exasperate the anxiety for her and you might send her into a full blown panic attack. About all you can do is keep doing what you are doing...have you talked to her parents about asking them to help you with this? You mentioned that she is getting out of her house to go there once in a while. This is a big step for her, she must be feeling some sort of self accomplishment by doing this. Perhaps the key is with them........hope this was helpful. Just don't give up on her.

 

[aweeze]

I wouldnt ever give up on her i care about her too much.

Mother knows how she is and knows she is finding it hard to overcome, but she is very stubborn as i mentioned before and tenRAB to want to do things in her own independant way,but every now and again we all need a little helping hand.

She knows we are all there for her, and she does want to get over this fear of going out, she does get panic attacks too i think this frightens her from going out too.

Thank you for your reply archimedis Having put this into writting has made me realise how hard it must be for her.

Fingers crossed she keeps it up with her outings, despite how short.