please help.SO UNCOMFORTABLE.feeling really weird?

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mrs. edwardcullen x3

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so i've never kissed a guy before, and i've never done anything like that. last night, i was with my friends. 2 guys, and a girl, and then me. they insisted we play truth or dare, and i was really nervous because my friends are really experienced. and they dared me to do a couple things, and at first it was fine, but then it started getting worse, like having me like my guy friend's chest, and then them making me lick is neck, and letting him tongue kiss my neck and feeling me up. i got REALLY REALLY REALLY uncomfortable. and my friends kept criticizing me that i need to be more comfortable with this stuff and that i need to chill out. i woke up this morning and i still feel really awkward, and i'm not even with them. i'm a freshman in high school and i feel so uncomfortable. can someone please give me some advice on how to chill out, or how to be comfortable with this kind of stuff. i hate this feeling. and i need help. PLEASE

P.S. i'm REALLY good friends with them, and they usually dont act like this around me. i can't just drop them as friends, it was just really wierd cuz they dont usually do this to me
 
Ok first of all its ok to feel weird about the situation. if you are not ready for that in your life then that should be your answer. Do not let people pressure you into doing something that you yourself feel that is not ok. You need ot know people treat you how you need to be treated by your action. Your friends may be fast but that shouldn't reflect on you. The are ignorant for making you feel like you should be ok with this behavior.

If you want to be a follower then go ahead but honey being a follower can get you in alot of trouble. Someone can take it to far and you can end up getting seriously hurt. So you need to let them know you are not into that kind of games. Next time sit out you aren't obligated to play these kind of childish games. Thats how girls get bad reps. It sad your friends put you in that position.
 
Wait wait wait wait...you dont need to learn to feel more "comfortable" with this stuff...feeling the way you do is your minds way of telling you, you didnt want to do that! You need to learn to stand up to your friends. You dont want to just learn to "relax" and let any ol' dude feel you up. Thats for when you are in an actual relationship with someone you really care for. Please dont feel like you need be slutty just to be friends with people...thats not cool at all.
 
Wait wait wait wait...you dont need to learn to feel more "comfortable" with this stuff...feeling the way you do is your minds way of telling you, you didnt want to do that! You need to learn to stand up to your friends. You dont want to just learn to "relax" and let any ol' dude feel you up. Thats for when you are in an actual relationship with someone you really care for. Please dont feel like you need be slutty just to be friends with people...thats not cool at all.
 
Don't do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Your friends should not pressure you and you should not give in to peer pressure. This is good practice for when you go out on a date and the guy is trying to make you go farther than you're comfortable with. Stand up for yourself. Nobody else will.
 
Ummm ignore what the other person said, you don't need to loosen up! No wonder you felt/feel uncomfortable if your guy friend was feeling you up. No matter how experienced you are, he's you're friend, therefore you're probably not attracted to him so don't want him doing that to you. Truth or dare can sometimes get out of hand, and it sounds like it did and they started pressuring you into doing stuff you didn't want to. You're right not to want to drop them as friends, but if they start doing this kinda stuff again just put you're foot down and say no. You were NOT being frigid or need to loosen up jeez your friends were mean to you!! When you do get your first kiss or start doing other stuff with guys you won't feel uncomfortable cos you'll want to do it, not the other way round with you being forced to do stuff.
It was completely natural for you to feel uncomfortable then and still feel so now. Maybe talk to one of your closest friends in the group that was there and explain how you feel and ask them not to do that again.
Hope this helps!
 
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