aid,emotional abuse? OK so i will try and make a long story short here.
i am 17 years old turning 18 in june
i have my GED (dropped out at 15) and am currently a fulltime student at a community college, almost done with credits,good gpa, going to hopefully transfer to a 4year school soon!
i live with just my mom and me in an apartment
though im a fulltime student i also work about 15-18 hours a week.
i get PEL grants for school and i recieve financial aid. my mom is unemployed and she gets food stamps and aid like that. she has a masters in pyschology but refuses to work in that field anymore because she said it will kill her.(unfortunately) and she recieves unemployment.
basically, she is my only family that i have. she is emotionally abusive. it has gotten worse over the years. she is constantly degrading me and picking on me. she makes me feel worthless. i cannot talk to her about it either, ive tried. i just take it. i feel horrible. i depend on her cuz i dont have a car. i make about 100 dollars a week. she makes me pay for gas because she "drives me everywhere" (which is really school and work) and she says i SHOULD be paying for rent. (im 17.) but im not. basically its impossible for me to save any money! she recently got a 3,000 dollar tax refund and i asked her if i could PLEASE put away a little bit to save for a car and she said no. she then went and bought land with it...she could have at least used it on rent or something. i cannot live with her anymore. she is literally insane. she brings everyone around her down. i love her but i cant stand her anymore. she is so abusive and the kicker is that she says im the abusive one. ha. funny joke.
anyways, last year apparently financial aid sent me like upwards of 500 dollars. i didnt hear about it till recently. my mom had just used alll of it. i was annoyed but didnt say anything. today i asked her if i twas getting any more money this year. she said yes but it hasnt come yet. then she said she was taking it all. i asked her if i could PLEASE use MY financial aid money for a used car. i mean i am constantly busy working and with school and a car would significantly help (shes also always complaining she cant get a job cuz she hasto drive me..even though i take the bus most of the time..sure use that excuse mom.) she said she needs it all and besides i should be helping pay towards living expenses. I want to know if i have a right to this money. i told her its my financial aid and she told me to grow up and stop being entitled. i dont understand why she deserves it more than me? i am the struggling student right now. she didnt even ask. and shes MEAN constantly. i am desperate for some sort of financial aid , welfare, anything just to get a car and get on my feet. My mom even said when i was complaining "well i put your name on the financial aid application for living alone this fall so youll get more aid" so for the next semester she wrote i wouldnt be living with her! but she was still gonna take the money and get even more cuz im
"independent" when really id be home ! and she didnt even ask if it was ok to kick me out! what a mom huh?! is there any benefits i can get now or in a few monts when im 18? im so desperate im about to run away. i cant live here anymore shes making me insane, seriously. and whats the best way to move out when im 18? what benefits can i apply for? im gonna try and apply for scolarships.
thannks so much if you read this i really appreciate it. i have no one to turn to. besides my boyfriend who said he would try and help me move out but not till october but i cant wait that long.
i am 17 years old turning 18 in june
i have my GED (dropped out at 15) and am currently a fulltime student at a community college, almost done with credits,good gpa, going to hopefully transfer to a 4year school soon!
i live with just my mom and me in an apartment
though im a fulltime student i also work about 15-18 hours a week.
i get PEL grants for school and i recieve financial aid. my mom is unemployed and she gets food stamps and aid like that. she has a masters in pyschology but refuses to work in that field anymore because she said it will kill her.(unfortunately) and she recieves unemployment.
basically, she is my only family that i have. she is emotionally abusive. it has gotten worse over the years. she is constantly degrading me and picking on me. she makes me feel worthless. i cannot talk to her about it either, ive tried. i just take it. i feel horrible. i depend on her cuz i dont have a car. i make about 100 dollars a week. she makes me pay for gas because she "drives me everywhere" (which is really school and work) and she says i SHOULD be paying for rent. (im 17.) but im not. basically its impossible for me to save any money! she recently got a 3,000 dollar tax refund and i asked her if i could PLEASE put away a little bit to save for a car and she said no. she then went and bought land with it...she could have at least used it on rent or something. i cannot live with her anymore. she is literally insane. she brings everyone around her down. i love her but i cant stand her anymore. she is so abusive and the kicker is that she says im the abusive one. ha. funny joke.
anyways, last year apparently financial aid sent me like upwards of 500 dollars. i didnt hear about it till recently. my mom had just used alll of it. i was annoyed but didnt say anything. today i asked her if i twas getting any more money this year. she said yes but it hasnt come yet. then she said she was taking it all. i asked her if i could PLEASE use MY financial aid money for a used car. i mean i am constantly busy working and with school and a car would significantly help (shes also always complaining she cant get a job cuz she hasto drive me..even though i take the bus most of the time..sure use that excuse mom.) she said she needs it all and besides i should be helping pay towards living expenses. I want to know if i have a right to this money. i told her its my financial aid and she told me to grow up and stop being entitled. i dont understand why she deserves it more than me? i am the struggling student right now. she didnt even ask. and shes MEAN constantly. i am desperate for some sort of financial aid , welfare, anything just to get a car and get on my feet. My mom even said when i was complaining "well i put your name on the financial aid application for living alone this fall so youll get more aid" so for the next semester she wrote i wouldnt be living with her! but she was still gonna take the money and get even more cuz im
"independent" when really id be home ! and she didnt even ask if it was ok to kick me out! what a mom huh?! is there any benefits i can get now or in a few monts when im 18? im so desperate im about to run away. i cant live here anymore shes making me insane, seriously. and whats the best way to move out when im 18? what benefits can i apply for? im gonna try and apply for scolarships.
thannks so much if you read this i really appreciate it. i have no one to turn to. besides my boyfriend who said he would try and help me move out but not till october but i cant wait that long.