please help dunno wat to do i in love bt ave mother in law from HELL please help.?

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I am with my boyfriend almost 3 years i am head over heals about him we get on great but i hate his mother she is very nice to my face but a bitch behind my back and she makes suttle digs all the time..

My boyfriend is almost gave her undivided attention to his now 23t 21 and his mother is a control freak she never gave him any attention as a child she gave her undivided attention to his now 23 year old sister who was born premiture he is always living in her shadow and she was a rebelious bitch but he does everything for his folks and all he ever hears is how much better his sister is. I am not good enough for her.

We are going to spain for 3 months and i want to arrange a surprise 21st for him here before we go i cant do it behind her back and cant talk to her about it because she thinks she isnt letting him go to spain with me but we going no matter what she says some one please help i feel like i constantly competing with his mother for his attention i dont want to compete with his family i want to marry him and be his family what should i do? ive tried everything i can think of
How will i organise his 21st? i understand that she maybe protective cause he her oldest son but why now? She never bothered with him before she didnt give him much of a childhood so why spoil his adult hood for him?
Sorry just answer Nicky u make a strange but true statemetn his my boyfiends father is 11years older than monster in law 4m hell...there only a few months between me n my fella and we have planned a future together but the way his mother is behaving i not sure how much more i can take
 
Be prepared to deal with not being good enough for the rest of your or her life. Some women are very overbearing when it comes to their children, particularly a male child.
 
You can not win with someone like that.
Be strong and dont let her push you around.
Don't be rude to her but if she makes a comment about you stand up to her!

Your bf is 23.
Not 12 if he was 12 then he would need her permission to go to spain.
But he is 23 and its his life she can't tell him what to do! if he wants to go to spain he has every right too and she cant do anything about it.

As you said yourself she is a control freak. To make her feel good about herself she needs to ahve control over the situation when your with her son she loses the control she needs over him.

I think you should discuss all this calmly with your bf, tell him how you feel!!
 
hey!! I got a step mother from hell! we should hang out sometime how close are you to New Jersey? j/k ur married and I respect the ring.

Also I wanna point out that I like this question because it specifically allows me to address an issue I've noticed and it's that women, DO NOT trust younger girls with their children. It's interesting to me because it's almost as if they KNOW that unlike guys you have a twisted agenda for the future you PLAN with her son. She might've done the same thing with your father in law, but will not tolerate any gold diggers dating her pride and joy, not that im sayin you are one, lmao.
 
This is your chance to live a movie life!! Have you ever seen Monster in Law? Use it as a reference!
 
This is your chance to live a movie life!! Have you ever seen Monster in Law? Use it as a reference!
 
talk to your boyfriend...and discuss your problem...you both will get a solution when you two get together.it all depends on his decision....if he truly loves you then he is going to understand


Well arrange the party outside...not at your place or his.
tell your boyfriend that it should be secret between you and him 'cause you want only him be there as he is special.
catch up with him when is mom is out or cooking or bathing or anything but is busy and can't get hold of you two.

good luck..
 
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