Please give me your opinions and advice about this situation?

[Jackie]

My boyfriend and I recently broke up. We have had a 6 1/2 year relationship. A few important points: he is 46 years old and lives with his manipulating, controlling mother, his family spends an unbelievable amount of time together! My relationship with him consisted of 1 weekly phone call and Saturday nights only - yes.... for 6 1/2 years! Honestly, I am not a very needy person, I work alot and I'm very independent, so this arrangement worked for me in that respect, although I know it wouldn't work for many other women!!! I started having a huge issue with him not having any privacy during phones calls, his mother would be in the background, commenting, listening, or whistling! Yes, whistling - especially if we were having a disagreement! I wanted to reach through the phone and take her head off!! I wanted him to get a cell phone - he said no, "he didn't have to keep up with technology, he has a home phone" blah, blah, blah!!! In my opinion the house, phone, etc. belong to his mother, not him! Long story short and getting to my question - I have had some medical issues in the last few weeks and really wanted to talk with him - called a few times, no answer, and I just couldn't make myself leave a voice mail. I just wanted to have a private conversation with him - it is absolutely none of his mother' s business what is going on with my health! I never did get to talk to him about it! The following Saturday, he blew me off, never called etc. The next day he said that he was the one doing all the calling, I told him I was plain tired of having to find out from his mother, where he was, when he would be back, etc.- it makes me feel like an idiot! I guess I feel insecure because I have had a few unsuccessful relationships, and even though I know I am not the one living with my mother at the age of 46, I feel like their must be something wrong with me! I wonder if he would be different with another women, even though his longest relationship before me was only six months! I just need some reassurance and support, if anyone has any to give!