Phyllis Newman
New member
G'day out there,
I am in a 2yr relationship with a depressed person. There were no signs of this "depression" untill a couple of months in. I am finding it very difficult and frustrating to keep us together. We do both love each other and there is no violence whatsoever, just the think before I speak incase she takes it the wrong way, (like living with a 16yr old sister when you are a13yr old). I am a very happy go lucky person and my partner seems to get upset with herself or others for pitty or pointless reasons. Each time I try to assist it's as if I'm damned if I do or damned if I don't.
If anyone out there knows who I can call please respond at some time. We have even moved interstate to start afresh as I supposedly had too many friends or always had something at work to do for her liking. I don't mean to sound selfish, I was brought up to complete works and also to be sociable. I know that time together is important, but that should be productive time, not watching tv or literally doing nothing. Yes I do relax, but my hobbies are my relaxation which to her credit, she has attempted them but has none of her own. She cannot seem to be nice to anybody and is not outgoing to others.
Everything to her has an excuse, all back to depression or I'm not smart enough. I do believe their are unfortunatly people out there who have had some real bad stuff occur to them, but I'm sure to a degree that they get over it if not they don't use it as an excuse for pitty.
My partner has never had any reason to feel the way she does. I do love her and I sincerely do not want it to turn to resentment.
Your's patiently,
Zoiks.
I am in a 2yr relationship with a depressed person. There were no signs of this "depression" untill a couple of months in. I am finding it very difficult and frustrating to keep us together. We do both love each other and there is no violence whatsoever, just the think before I speak incase she takes it the wrong way, (like living with a 16yr old sister when you are a13yr old). I am a very happy go lucky person and my partner seems to get upset with herself or others for pitty or pointless reasons. Each time I try to assist it's as if I'm damned if I do or damned if I don't.
If anyone out there knows who I can call please respond at some time. We have even moved interstate to start afresh as I supposedly had too many friends or always had something at work to do for her liking. I don't mean to sound selfish, I was brought up to complete works and also to be sociable. I know that time together is important, but that should be productive time, not watching tv or literally doing nothing. Yes I do relax, but my hobbies are my relaxation which to her credit, she has attempted them but has none of her own. She cannot seem to be nice to anybody and is not outgoing to others.
Everything to her has an excuse, all back to depression or I'm not smart enough. I do believe their are unfortunatly people out there who have had some real bad stuff occur to them, but I'm sure to a degree that they get over it if not they don't use it as an excuse for pitty.
My partner has never had any reason to feel the way she does. I do love her and I sincerely do not want it to turn to resentment.
Your's patiently,
Zoiks.