Paternity test... have to go to court?

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Okay so my boyfriend's parents are psychotic... him and I have a 5 1/2 month old daughter and are temporarily living with them until we get married in August )they don't know we're getting married... they also don't know we're pregnant again and I don't want them knowing) and they told him that he had to get a paternity test done on our daughter otherwise I can't live there anymore and they'll file for custody... like they're psychotic so he did it. So we have to go to court... but on the court papers it says that the court will set up proper parenting times like visitation... well how the hell does that work if we live together and are getting married? Should I get a lawyer? What are they going to ask us at court and tell us (he's trying to establish parentage). Thanks.
 
Your situation is a sad one, indeed: Pregnant with the second child and you are 17.

You and your 23 year old boyfriend (sounds like he could be arrested for molesting a minor) are living with his parents, who are probably footing the bill for your living expenses.

Sorry, but I cannot blame his parents one bit for wanting to make sure your child is their real grandchild. If not, why would they be supporting you?

Can you even get married at your age in your state? If so, better tell them about your plans. It would not at all be right to 'stiff' them after they are being so good to you and your child.
 
As long as YOU know that he is the father, you are already on the 'straight and narrow.' If I were you, I would quietly go to legal aid and get their help for FREE. Do not mention anything about living with the boyfriend or you won't get the help that you need, because they just will refuse your much needed help. If the legal aid people ask for a telephone number, be sure and NOT give them your telephone number. Some fool will certainly make the mistake of calling your home and get your would be in-laws on the line. This I know you wouldn't want to have happen.

Put God's veil of protection about you.

I would suggest these scriptures as follows:
What shall we then say to these things? If GOD be for us, WHO can be against us? - Romans 8:31 The Lord daily loadeth us with BENEFITS, even the God of our salvation. Selah. - Psalm 68:19 Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them. - Mark 11:24 I wish you continued success and a prosperous, happy and healthy ongoing life.
Peace!
 
You must be very young. If you can afford one, get a lawyer.

Wanting a DNA is not a psychotic act, it is a concern that can be remedied by taking the test. If he's the father, what's the problem? Who filed the papers? Are you receiving public assistance?

If visitation isn't an issue, go to court and tell the judge your situation. What did you tell social services so they would think this in the first place?

Parentage is very important. You and your boyfriend are not married and there is nothing saying that he's the father (birth certificates don't matter, anyone can be named on them). Establishing parentage means there is a legal document naming your boyfriend as father and if something happens to your boyfriend, at least the proof is there. Had you been married before conceiving children, parentage would not be an issue.

The parents sound smart and you sound very unappreciative. Stop having kids while you are living with someone else. If you cannot provide food, clothing and shelter for yourself and the existing kids, why keep having kids until you cannot afford them?

Tell his parents you are pregnant. Be mature about this. Also, up the wedding date and go to city hall. Move out ASAP.
 
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