mayellie86
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I always thought that my parents had a great marriage, for the most part. There have been some pretty intense arguments through out the years, at first I was worried that their marriage was in big trouble. As I've gotten older I came to realize that marriage isn't all hugs and kisses, that it can get ugly at times.
My parents have always been there for my siblings and I, we have never wanted for a thing and know that we can always rely on them to be there. My mother first told me that things weren't so great with my father probably about a year ago, we were taking an early morning walk in the park and she told me that she didn't feel that connection anymore and that she had told my dad that he needed to work it out or she was seriously going to consider divorce. I don't know all the details, but I do know that my father isn't the most forthcoming person and not a very huggy feely type. I asked her if that was what she really wanted and she said no but that if my dad wasn't willing to do his part to make their marriage work then she would. After that my dad did make an effort and things seemed to get better. They just had their 25th anniversary in July and my dad didn't do a thing for my mother or vice versa. I've always thought that the guy should at least get flowers or go out to dinner on important occassions, my dad hardly ever makes that effort at all. I got them a nice cake and a card from the four of us kids. The fact that my dad didn't get a card or just something to celebrate the 25 yrs they've been together just seemed wrong. Ok, Im going a little to in depth and should get to what really hit me today.
I was with my mom this morning and we were just talking about anything and everything when we got to the topic of them (my parents) and she said that shes not happy anymore. She doesn't feel any love anymore and that they don't talk much about anything. She tries to talk to my father and he doesn't want to listen. I don't know if he's just ignoring the problem or what. She has told him that she is seriously considering divorce and if he would remarry if that were the case and he said no. I asked if she would and she said yes. She wants to be happy, if she can find somebody who can then she would marry them. This was so surreal for me to hear coming from my mom, I never once thought that she felt this way. She started to cry as she told me about the problems they're facing and how she has just given up hope that they can work through them.
I don't know what to think, can I help at all? Try to talk to my dad and make him see that this is serious. The last thing that I want is for my parents to split up, but I don't want my mom to be miserable if she doesn't have to be. I love my dad, but I know how difficult it can be to make him listen.
My parents have always been there for my siblings and I, we have never wanted for a thing and know that we can always rely on them to be there. My mother first told me that things weren't so great with my father probably about a year ago, we were taking an early morning walk in the park and she told me that she didn't feel that connection anymore and that she had told my dad that he needed to work it out or she was seriously going to consider divorce. I don't know all the details, but I do know that my father isn't the most forthcoming person and not a very huggy feely type. I asked her if that was what she really wanted and she said no but that if my dad wasn't willing to do his part to make their marriage work then she would. After that my dad did make an effort and things seemed to get better. They just had their 25th anniversary in July and my dad didn't do a thing for my mother or vice versa. I've always thought that the guy should at least get flowers or go out to dinner on important occassions, my dad hardly ever makes that effort at all. I got them a nice cake and a card from the four of us kids. The fact that my dad didn't get a card or just something to celebrate the 25 yrs they've been together just seemed wrong. Ok, Im going a little to in depth and should get to what really hit me today.
I was with my mom this morning and we were just talking about anything and everything when we got to the topic of them (my parents) and she said that shes not happy anymore. She doesn't feel any love anymore and that they don't talk much about anything. She tries to talk to my father and he doesn't want to listen. I don't know if he's just ignoring the problem or what. She has told him that she is seriously considering divorce and if he would remarry if that were the case and he said no. I asked if she would and she said yes. She wants to be happy, if she can find somebody who can then she would marry them. This was so surreal for me to hear coming from my mom, I never once thought that she felt this way. She started to cry as she told me about the problems they're facing and how she has just given up hope that they can work through them.
I don't know what to think, can I help at all? Try to talk to my dad and make him see that this is serious. The last thing that I want is for my parents to split up, but I don't want my mom to be miserable if she doesn't have to be. I love my dad, but I know how difficult it can be to make him listen.