Parents. Do you expect your kids to cook their own food? Or do you cook for them?

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Wolfgang M

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My mom used to cook for me everyday, but now she's stopped and expects me to cook my own food. I'm talking about like roast beef, steak dinners, & cheeseburgers, dinner food. My mom never taught me how to cook and Idk how. I look online and use cook books and everything, but it always comes out horrible. My steaks are always raw on the inside, or burnt on the outside & she gets pissed. I almost burnt down the house the other day & the fire fighters came.

I have to spend my own money on fast food every day. When I ask her why she makes me cook myself, she tells me that all the of her friends kids cook themselves. She said it was normal for kids to make dinner themselves. I'm starving right now trying to cook a steak. I'm talking ages 14-15. I'm wondering how normal this is.

Would/do you make your 14-15 year old cook their own dinner? If they aren't that old, if they were, would you?
 
i would teach my 14/15 year old to cook and i would have them do it often enough that they became capable at it. i think that does them a favor. i would not expect them to do it every day, and i would be with them when they cooked, setting the table or providing company, moral support, and someone to hold the fire extinguisher when needed.

i expect my younger kids 5-10 to be able to pour their own cereal or make a sandwich or something simple like that. of course i'll often do it for them, but if i'm busy with something else they do it themselves.
 
Quite honestly, you can't expect something that was never taught. You teach your children how to act appropriately, and when to use manners; that's when you expect them to be used.

The wisest choice for your mom at this point would be to teach you recipes maybe, or ask you to help out in the kitchen while making food. Forcing you to cook your own meals for YOURSELF only with the given that you could possibly starve is just wrong. As for incorrect cooking, it's her job to help you with it if you can't do it properly. It takes many attempts before someone can properly cook a decent meal; nobody's born a professional chef, and not helping out just extends the time before you get the hang of it.


It's unreasonable to ask a child (Or anyone for without experience) to begin cooking randomly without any help or instruction.

(P.S. - For cooking steak, if you're getting burnt outsides, but raw insides, try using lower heat. Not only will allow the heat to slowly penetrate the inside, and cook it properly, but prevent the outside from burning/cooking too soon. When you've finished cooking it on the stovetop or even oven, wrap it partially in a bit of aluminum foil and leave it out for 3-7 minutes to allow the flavor and cooking process to round off.)
 
Quite honestly, you can't expect something that was never taught. You teach your children how to act appropriately, and when to use manners; that's when you expect them to be used.

The wisest choice for your mom at this point would be to teach you recipes maybe, or ask you to help out in the kitchen while making food. Forcing you to cook your own meals for YOURSELF only with the given that you could possibly starve is just wrong. As for incorrect cooking, it's her job to help you with it if you can't do it properly. It takes many attempts before someone can properly cook a decent meal; nobody's born a professional chef, and not helping out just extends the time before you get the hang of it.


It's unreasonable to ask a child (Or anyone for without experience) to begin cooking randomly without any help or instruction.

(P.S. - For cooking steak, if you're getting burnt outsides, but raw insides, try using lower heat. Not only will allow the heat to slowly penetrate the inside, and cook it properly, but prevent the outside from burning/cooking too soon. When you've finished cooking it on the stovetop or even oven, wrap it partially in a bit of aluminum foil and leave it out for 3-7 minutes to allow the flavor and cooking process to round off.)
 
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