One year Surgery Anniversary, UGH!

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Hello everyone,
Happy Memorial Day to all........and a special thank-you to all of our veterans and surviving families. God bless you all!!:angel:

05/25 marks my one year post-op from my l4-l5 plif. I had my hardware removed 2months ago. Unfortunatley, I am in worse pain now than I was year ago. This also happens to be my hubbys' birthday. I am so tired of people who make these comments like "I know someone that had that done and thy are fine now, yeah for them. Its as if I did something wrong, faking it, or Im just weak. I feel bad enough without others trying to bring me down. Explain, explain, explain I fell like I am constently trying to defend myself with frienRAB, neigrabroadors, Doctors. I am only 43 with 3 kiRAB, 1-boy, a senior and twin boys that are 5 years old. I was always the on-the-go Mom going to every event in town or at school. Working full-time and playing full-time. Sorry to be such a downer, I know you all understand what Im talking about, Im preaching to the choir. Anyway Im going to try to get myself together and make next year a new milestone, you never know what tomorrow will bring.
Thanks for listening
Lisa:angel:
 
I'm sorry you haven't had a better outcome. Is there anything else they say they can do? How's your pain management?

People can be very stupid, even when they're trying to encourage you. Maybe you can think up some good one-liners to answer the people who "know someone else who's fine now." They probably don't mean to infer that you're faking; they just don't get it! I think I'd say something like, "Really? That's great! I'm so jealous!" (with eyes wide and look of surprise). Or "back issues are complicated and some do better than others" or "I wish I had your friend's spine" or "I guess I just haven't been as fortunate as your friend."

I hope you're managing and not getting too down. It's a struggle, not just physically, but mentally and emotionally. It takes a toll on you. ((((hugs))))

I hope you have a better day today,
Emily
 
Hugs Lisa. Our lives are so similiar except I only have 2 kiRAB. It is very difficult to be our age with children and going thru this. Not that it is easy at any age but you have to explain to your children why you can't sit on the floor or ride roller coasters and all the other Moms in town are doing it. Its hard emotionally.

My heart goes out to you. I am in the exact same spot and just want you to know that I am here for you. (((Hugs)))
 
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