one time oral sex with ex-gf, should i tell my spouse?

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Hi,

I have been with my spouse for 8 years, been married for almost 5 years. I recently re-connected with the first GF that I ever had sex with. After a couple of lunches together (unknown to my spouse), I went to her apt. and we had oral sex. I felt so bad afterward and of course guilty. However, I know that I'll never do it again, and I've cut off all ties with the ex-GF. She doesn't know my spouse and we have no mutual friends. Should I tell my wife?
OK, just wanted to say thanks so far for the responses. Just wanted to add that we both say that we're 100% honest with each other, I know that this is the only thing I haven't told her. We recently had a child and I don't want to tell her just to alleviate my guilt. I don't think that's a good enough reason, then two people are hurt.
I'd also like to know what your marital status is and if this has happened in your life.
 
shut up dude...you never know...she might be keeping secrets from you too. We are all human and give in to temptation once in a while. I dont belive that any marraige today is 100 percent faithful.....not in todays world. Do you really think that your wife ia going to only touch you for ther est of ehr life? Its hard to belive for me...but you know...my wife cheated and left me and the kids after 12 yrs so I have real reasons to beleive it.
 
If you want to stay with your lady then I advice you to keep your mouth shut , the wisest thing to do I think anyway .
 
I know if it were me personally the guilt would be too much for me to handle. I would have to tell the person I was with in order to make myself feel better and to be fair to that person. You made a mistake and it will be a while before she will be able to forgive and forget but that's what happens when you screw up. It's up to you guys to get past this.
 
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