OK, so my brother-in-law is a jerk (so is his wife). He's my husband's brother.?

[Maria P]

They both live 3 hours away from us but have NOT bothered to visit us since we moved to our new place 3 months ago. Not the slightest intent to come down. My in-laws are coming to town to visit. Of course, now my brother in law and his wife might come down just because grandma & grandpa are coming. Keep in mind it is my brother-in-law's parents.

Is it too mean of me to tell my mother in law I don't care for his other son and wife to come down that weekend? She doesn't know the situation. He doesn't even call his brother (my husband)! He didn't even call my husband for his birthday! Sent him a text message the following day!!

Whenever we are around them they drive us nuts! They are overly protected of their 3 year old which is sickening to watch! God forbid the kid miss a nap or get a scratch! Changing a diaper is team work! I just see them coming and having whatever we do rotate around their kid.

I feel I am going to be hypocrite by having to put a face and be nice to them.

 

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Maybe, just maybe, there is a reason they don't visit with you and your husband. I don't know what happened, but maybe your husband has done something that has caused them to distance themselves. I don't think people usually just wake up one day and randomly decide to cool their relationship with someone unless there is a reason. I think there's more to this story. The fact that you didn't mention anything makes me think it is something that your husband has done and not you.
Were you all close before?
Do you call them on their birthdays? Send them gifts?
And I'm sorry to say this, but you come across as strangely bitter over their child. I mean, just because they have a schedule... what is it to you anyway? Are you trying to have a child as well?