Ok here goes the same old sorry debate?

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Do those of you who look down your noses at working moms seriously believe that they work to buy their children designer clothes and the newest video games? Do you think that they selfishly sit around all day wondering how they can skirt their responsibility of parenting their child off onto someone else? OR can you step outside yourselves for 5 seconds and realize that MAYBE they are working because they HAVE to? Maybe their heart aches every moment they are away from the most precious gift God has ever blessed them with? Maybe or are you too myopic in your views to understand that?

And yes I am proud to be a working mom doing all I can to make sure my daughter and my family are well cared for!!
 
Hey, i'm a stay at home mom right now because my last job i was working at...the lady got sent to the hospital and is still in there, I do have a job that i've had for about 8 years now, helping out with a family ran motel very close to where i live. I don't look down on either, because i myself am a bit of both!
 
Bang on!
What I mean is, my sister's a working single parent of four kids and well... bang on!
 
I hear you. I am a single mom who works full time, and I'm getting laid off on Friday. I have applied for 10 or so other jobs, but I haven't gotten another one yet. I don't get child support (I'm in the middle of a paternity suit trying to get the deadbeat to take some responsibility).

It sucks. I hate to go on welfare and put my son on Medicaid, but if I can't find another job, what choice do I have? I LIKE being able to work and support myself and my son. Working single moms are my heroes!
 
I don't think anyone who admits to looking down their noses at working moms will answer your question. The rest of us more level headed ones will though.
Do what you have to do to be the best mom you can be....that's all that matters.
 
I work and I like that I work, I do ache that I cannot be around my child 24-7 but this is my me time, if I didn't work we wouldn't have a income (single mom) I would be relying on the government to pay for everything and if I had all the money in the world and I could stay at home I will tell you what, I wouldn't. I love my daughter and I love to be with her but I like doing what I need to and getting a break for myself and for her. I also think it is good for children to be in daycare because it helps their social skills and it helps them interact with kids.
 
I'd like to say I never ran into that before as a working mom but I have. I have a snobby cousin who always gives me grief. She lives out in the burbs and is avaialble to her two children and is always trying the new methods of teaching on her kids and it's annoying. What's funny is her one kid is a little asshole so she isn't doing that great a job with him.

I don't think all women who stay at home feel that way about working moms and vice versa. I think there always insecurities on both ends. The working mom feels bad because they cannot be there as much as they like for their children. They do nothave the time to organize as much for their children or do extra activities. In the same token, those women who stay at home often feel "worthless" because they are made to feel useless and are told their lives aren't that hard.
 
i'm w/carrie the "lovely" people who think like that will never answer your question. they may hurl insults when they feel it necessary but level headed normal people don't think that way.
good for you for doing what is best for you and your child. good for all mothers who do the same. woman as a whole should not bash each other, we should support each other.
 
I am a working mother too, and proud of it. Just do whatever you like and if it work for you, who care what other thinks.
 
On the other end, I am a stay at home mom. And VERY grateful to have that ability. I think people judge mom's who don't work as well.

There are mothers who do work unnecessarily and don't appreciate their kids to the fullest. There are stay at home moms who are lazy.

But most of us do what we do for very specific reasons and it's not fair to stereotype and say that all working moms are selfish. And all stay at home moms are lazy.

I hear you. And only a moron would disagree with you.
 
Wow - someone said something to make you angry. :) I'm a stay-at-home and I don't look down on working moms at all. Most of the time I wonder how the heck they do it because mom duties don't quit just because you have to work 9-5 too. Never mind middle of the night wake-ups when you have to be poised and ready for an 8 am meeting. Or the heartache of having to leave your child at daycare and return to work.

I think that every mom, be she stay-at-home or working outside the home, feels she's being looked down upon for her working arrangements. I know I feel like working moms think I'm frumpy, out-of-touch with current events, living in a kid warp with no brain stimulation etc. sometimes. And, I know working moms who feel like we stay-at-homes look down on them for not being with their kids 24/7. While I'm sure there are some of both, I honestly think it's our own insecurities playing a part, second-guessing ourselves, wondering if we're doing the best for our children and ourselves.

In the end, we all do our best trying to maintain balance in our lives and raise our children the best we can.
 
I hate this debate; I asked a question because I'm in college for teaching and I want to have a family and people told me how bad it is to put your kid in daycare; like the child will turn out to be "deviant". No, if you parent correctly your child will not turn out deviant. Working moms aren't selfish either; this debate has to be my biggest pet peeve; that working moms are horrible; no they work all day to put food on the table then come home and do everything else; they never have times to themselves. People dissed on my mom because she worked; it pisses me off so badly. Women need to work now with the economy the way it is AND because of the high deforce rate.
 
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