Not so much a question as a rant.?

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My dad's friend got into horses a few years ago. He knew nothing about horses but bought a few mares and thought he knew it all. He took two to a show with tail bandages on. I told him not to leave the bandages on all weekend and not to put them on too tight. He got back and took the bandages off, and their tails fell off as he'd cut off the blood supply by not listening to me. Dad bought a horse from him and he constantly tells Dad the most ridiculous things. Apparently she's highly strung and difficult to work with. She's the sweetest mare I've ever come into contact with and is so easy to work with it's unbelievable. He said she needed to rest her stomach from concentrates, but when quizzed about where he got that info from, he admitted he made it up. I don't ride Dad's mare, some one else does. She was in her first competition at the weekend and got placed (joint 1st at 1metre) and he says the rider isn't pushing her enough. She's only four. continued in expand.
I thought that he would have started to read things and find out things, but whatever he doesn't know he makes up!!! He basically admitted to me that he won't listen to me because i have ovaries. Well, he said 'you're a girl, what would you know about it?' I'm 22 with two kids and I started riding when i was 6. He's rough with his horses. He doesn't spend any time calming them. He called his stud stallion names (I know that seems pathetic to be ranting about) and went on about how he's really difficult to lead. When he is actually very sweet and loves apples over carrots. He seems to think that as he has 30+ horses he knows everything but can you ever know everything about horses?
He went on about how he has a good rep as a breeder, but when I was talking to people about him and his young stock, I was told nothing but negative. Luckily, dad's mare is ok, but I just wish he'd take my advice over this man's cos he's talking from somewhere but it's not his mouth.
 
Don't know what to say really. Except, do horses tails grow back? I know nothing about horses so would hope they do.
 
Gosh, I think owners like this are cloned all over the place. Probably popped out of pods like the old horror movie.

Some folks will have open minds and will listen to ideas, and ones like this will not. Anything you say will be wasted with him. Save your energy for one who actually wants to learn.
Sometimes I get great joy out of making people like that squirm. The next time you are around him and his horses, find some glaring wrong. Poor conformation. Hoof condition. Mishandled stud. Whatever. Don't say a word. Make a point of obviously studying it. Stare at it. Frown, shake your head, run your hands over it. Pick up a foot. But stay silent. He may ask you what you see. Just raise your eyebrows and blow out some breath. Talk about the weather or the economy or the price of gas. Keep redirecting your eyes to the horse issue. It will drive him nuts. He won't have a clue. But you told him without saying a thing that you have horse knowledge.

But with your dad, think back into your memory when he gave correct advice about someone or an issue.

Example:
Dad, do you remember when you taught me how to drive and warned me about hydroplaning (or whatever)? I listened to you and your wisdom because of your experience. I didn't get that information from my friends because I trusted that YOU"D give me the best information out there because you cared about me.

This is very odd, Dad, because now that I am an adult, you have a friend who is giving you misinformation and I am the one who has both the knowledge and the caring to provide you with truth. So please let me do it.


Just a couple of ideas on how to deal with two different men with horses!
 
yeah he sounds like a totasl twat. dont worru about people thinking he's any good though - horse people arent stupid - they know when someone is a complete bag of shite even if they dont say it to their face. he doesnt have any right to any part in your dad's horses life as its no longer his so that can easily be disregarded but i see what a d*ck he's being. is there someone quite important in his world you can get at him thru?? keep a carefl eye on those horses - if he does things which can be rgarded as cruel you can swoop in and report him!!!!! but basically he just seems like an ass!!!!! not surprised u needed to vent about it!!!
 
as your dads daughter - I think you need to have a serious chat with your father and tell him what you've told us.
This man sounds like a right fool and shouldnt be allowed near animals.
xx
 
sounds like a big head to me, cant take criticism and needs to be reported for cruelty.

i would gladly give him what he deserved if i knew were he was.
 
so the moral of this story is you know more about horses than your fathers friend....that's great remember to pat yourself on the back more often
 
Hi I know exactly what you are trying to say. There are a lot of ignorant, mean, spitful, up their own arse people out there who think owning, riding, and breaking horses is a really 'hard' thing to do.

All who suffer are the horses, they are treated appallingly, cruely and completely incorrectly by these people.

The only way to solve these issues is to get welfare charities, in the U.K. the RSPCA and the ILPH to act much sooner, instead of waiting until these animals are nearly dead.

Sorry to sound so negative, but I have one of these 'men' on our yard, he bullies the horses but is renowned in the area as a man to send unbreakable horses to. Pathetic, all he actually does is BREAK good horses into shivering wrecks for other men who are frightened stiff of them. Until I believe a whole generation of 'Men' has passed we will be left with these bullies who know nothing of the true spirit of the horse.
 
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