not fitting in in college, kind of embarrassing?

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So I'm 21 now and This is my first year at a major university and my roommate (who was a very good friend) hates me and I really haven't gotten to know anyone here and I'm really disappointed with myself. I live in a much bigger city than I'm used to and it's been rough for me.I have friends here but no good ones, I'm really shy but I tend to make people laugh when I talk. I'm in very good shape, and I consider myself to be very selfless and more concerned with others well being than my own.This is one of the top party schools in the nation yet I've never been to one that I was invited to!!!! Everyone here just seems to be so concerned with themselves!any advice on making better friends?any advice on meeting girls here?I was at community college last year and I would have one or two parties a week at my house and they were usually at least 20-30 people.done my share of party crashing, normally I'd piggy back on my roommate but not any more.
 
um, if it is a top party school just go down to frat row, or walk the outskirts of campus until you find a party. Go in. Just do it. If someone stops you at the door you have two choices, "oh sorry thought it was open invite" or " hey i am with those guys over there" and point. usually they will let you in. Another good line on dudes guarding the doors, is "Hey that is my sister and her friends" randomly point " I can probably get you the hook up." You can be shy once you are within the confines of the party, but i bet you will have some more confidence after crashing some parties.
 
They are very clicky. Join clubs is the only thing I can think of. Maybe try to change schools for a smaller one.
 
Give it time. Concentrate on the people that are kind of your friends and hopefully better friendships with them will blossom. Why does your roommate hate you? Is it something that can be sorted or is it more of a you're going your separate ways thing? Are you enjoying your studies? Is it just the friends issue that's the problem? I can relate, sort of. I've never had many friends at one time (which I'm okay with) but it is hard for me to make friends. And when I left high school, there was a whole lot of friends I then lost. You could try joining clubs and things. However, it seems community college was a better experience for you...so perhaps the problem lies in that the university you're at now just isn't the right one for you. There may be another one that better fits the kind of person you are. If it just doesn't seem to be working out, maybe you need to take some time to get away from there and have a think about what you need to do and maybe look at going some place else.
 
Are there clubs you could join which you are interested in? You could meet people with similar interests & take it from there. Or check them out to see if you could develop an interest.Don't be too hard on yourself about fitting in. You need time to adjust to the larger city and school. I'm assuming that the school is also a large one? If so, you might find that you will want to transfer to a smaller school if you are unable to adapt. Some people just do better in smaller schools where they fit in just fine.
 
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