Dreamer 76
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I'm happily married to a fantastic guy, we've been married 3 years and last year had our first baby boy who's now 13 months old. Since having him our sex life has become pretty much non existent. We both work full time and being a working mum is taking all my energy completely. By the time I get home, look after my baby, cook and take care of the house, come night time I'm absolutely shattered and sex is the last thing on my mind. I don't feel we do anything as a couple anymore and our relationship has taken a complete back seat. Of course I knew there would be changes and I don't for one second ever regret having my beautiful little boy, I just wish I had more energy for my husband as well. Luckily for me he's completely supportive and because our relationship is so solid I never ever think of him doing anything because I know him too well, we've been inseparable since the day we met and after 3 years we still are, even without a proper sex life. I've been told by colleagues to let our childminder have the baby for one evening every now and then so we can go out just as a couple, but I hate the thought of leaving my baby with someone else for the evening even if it is a childminder who I trust completely as I let her have him during the day when I'm working. I'm really not sure what to do and would appreciate any advice from other mums who have been or are in the same situation, and how you make time for each other. Please no stupid comments and jokes or I'll just delete what you say, fed up of idiots on here insulting and criticising people with real dilemmas who genuinely need some advice. For everyone else who replies, many thanks in advance for any advice you can give. 
Radd, if thats the sort of guy you are, not understanding and selfish then no wonder she left you. You obviously have no idea about women and how hard it is to work and be a mum, if you did you wouldn't be so stupid and ignorant. As for cheating I know for a fact he doesn't, I know my relationship and I know how close we are, it would never ever happen this I know 100%. He never gives me reason to worry and vice versa. Guys like you are the reason theres so many divorces, I certainly wouldn't want to be married to an insensitive idiot who is clueless about women. Go read a book and educate yourself before you pass judgement, fool.
Joe, thanks for your advice.
You are right when you say its my job to bring him up to be a decent human being for society, I am doing my best to ensure that he will be by teaching him family values and respect, but surely it's just as important to work, not only to give us a better life but also for his future. Whilst I'd love to stay home with him all day I simply can't afford to. Work is an essential part of life and I'd rather be working, earning my money and being independent than being lazy and living off other peoples earnings. It's just about learning to balance it all, work, motherhood, relationship and that's what is hard.
Radd, if thats the sort of guy you are, not understanding and selfish then no wonder she left you. You obviously have no idea about women and how hard it is to work and be a mum, if you did you wouldn't be so stupid and ignorant. As for cheating I know for a fact he doesn't, I know my relationship and I know how close we are, it would never ever happen this I know 100%. He never gives me reason to worry and vice versa. Guys like you are the reason theres so many divorces, I certainly wouldn't want to be married to an insensitive idiot who is clueless about women. Go read a book and educate yourself before you pass judgement, fool.
Joe, thanks for your advice.
You are right when you say its my job to bring him up to be a decent human being for society, I am doing my best to ensure that he will be by teaching him family values and respect, but surely it's just as important to work, not only to give us a better life but also for his future. Whilst I'd love to stay home with him all day I simply can't afford to. Work is an essential part of life and I'd rather be working, earning my money and being independent than being lazy and living off other peoples earnings. It's just about learning to balance it all, work, motherhood, relationship and that's what is hard.