From: "sf"
cshenk" wrote:
We still have a general 'expectation' in our culture that the man will be
the breadwinner, the wife adds 'side money' or if he's a really good
breadwinner, she can do charity work.
You *do* give up a few things if you shift to just one income (and arent the
spouse of Bill Gates or something) but if the choices you make are in
tandem, it works.
It really makes no difference which stays home. In our case, I have the
skills that lead to high earnings while Don's although not insignificant
when current in 1992, were less. Now he's slipped where those skills mean
little 18 years later and we *knew that* so there is no blame. His max if
still current would be just 50K a year and start wages tend to 36K.
We both agree the lack of that extra was well paid back by a sane kid who
always knew no matter where I was (sea duty, sinagore, red sea, Korea, UAE,
Bahrain, whatever of the week) she had a real live parent at home for her.
Stomach flu? Daddy is there to pick her up no matter the time. Daddy is
there to walk you to school, or meet you at the bus.
It's a good thing it have one parent at home *if* you can manage it. It
doesnt matter which sex the parent is. If a family can't manage one at home,
I think it;s good if the can manage one to be at home at least part time.
cshenk" wrote:
We still have a general 'expectation' in our culture that the man will be
the breadwinner, the wife adds 'side money' or if he's a really good
breadwinner, she can do charity work.
You *do* give up a few things if you shift to just one income (and arent the
spouse of Bill Gates or something) but if the choices you make are in
tandem, it works.
It really makes no difference which stays home. In our case, I have the
skills that lead to high earnings while Don's although not insignificant
when current in 1992, were less. Now he's slipped where those skills mean
little 18 years later and we *knew that* so there is no blame. His max if
still current would be just 50K a year and start wages tend to 36K.
We both agree the lack of that extra was well paid back by a sane kid who
always knew no matter where I was (sea duty, sinagore, red sea, Korea, UAE,
Bahrain, whatever of the week) she had a real live parent at home for her.
Stomach flu? Daddy is there to pick her up no matter the time. Daddy is
there to walk you to school, or meet you at the bus.
It's a good thing it have one parent at home *if* you can manage it. It
doesnt matter which sex the parent is. If a family can't manage one at home,
I think it;s good if the can manage one to be at home at least part time.