As a clarifier, I'm a 21 year old woman and my boyfriend of six months is 27. I am on birth control. Sorry if this sounds crude.
Perhaps it's silly of me to worry, but I'm not sure what to do. I don't feel much of anything pleasant during oral sex, or during "fingering". There is very little sensation, although it is mildly pleasant, like a soothing back rub. There is no escalation, however. I'd hoped this would get better after I started having sex. I was a virgin until four days ago, when I started having sex with my boyfriend. It hurt me like crazy, not because I was tense (I was very wet, and lubed to boot), but it felt like he was stabbing my abdomen every time he thrusted.
He says that there is less room in there than normal, and after looking it up I think he's hitting my cervix. My period is supposed to start tomorrow, and I think it might be low. So, I think that was just a bad time to start having sex, I suppose. Or, is that wrong?
Either way, when he started not thrusting as deeply, I didn't feel anything at all. It was like he wasn't even in there. It made me worried, because I feel more during fingers, even, and I don't get much out of that.
But, to add to it all, before two minutes were up, he ejaculated prematurely. I chalked this up to it being our first time, but then we went at it three more times (different days), and the same thing occurred each time. He says he just gets overwhelmed and that I'm too sexy.
As for myself, I was a virgin prior to this, and he's had a few "one night stands" but no real sexual relationships to speak of. He was pretty much wasted all the other times he'd done it. He says that no other woman has made him finish, either, because he was too nervous before. Which is nice, in theory.
But, his problem comes in again in that when I give him attention down below, he can always hold it in pretty long. He has no problem getting an erection, either. However, since we've started having sex, he sometimes has a hard time even getting it up. He says he's worried he's going to hurt me (which he does), and that he won't be able to hold it in. Which, really, I think that worrying is his only problem.
Am I right? He's pretty much a virgin in all this, and pretty inexperienced. I think he could build up stamina if he just didn't worry so much. Also, I think if I didn't hurt so much, it would help us both relax. I'm afraid of every move he makes, because sometimes he just hurts me so badly.
Would I feel more if he could go longer? It seems like the longer he's in there, I start to feel a sensation. Not really pleasure, but I can tell he's in there. But, he can only be in there for any long amount of time if he's only "half erect". It just pretty much falls out at that point. He says he has to not think about sex to stop himself from ejaculating - which I think is the wrong technique. That really doesn't help him keep an erection. At any rate and makes it bad for both of us.
So, will the pain go away once my cycle is over? Will he be able to hold out longer the more comfortable he gets with having sex with me? Will I start to feel some sort of sensation? I worry, because I hear all the time that oral sex is so great, but I really don't feel anything at all, in that case. What can I do? We've read up on it, and just can't make it any better.
Should we just go with it until we figure it out? Please help. He's really upset about this, and I'm starting to worry I'm broken.
I know what ejaculation is. He ejaculates prematurely; ie, before he wants to. Out it comes. The only way he can stop it is to stop thinking about sex, which makes him soft.
I know he's not a virgin. I really get that. I mean it in that he's inexperienced.
I don't masturbate because I'm uncomfortable with it and get no pleasure.
I don't tell him to stop when it hurts. He keeps going. It gets a little better. The problem is that he can't keep going because he can't hold off very long. That kills it fast.
Perhaps it's silly of me to worry, but I'm not sure what to do. I don't feel much of anything pleasant during oral sex, or during "fingering". There is very little sensation, although it is mildly pleasant, like a soothing back rub. There is no escalation, however. I'd hoped this would get better after I started having sex. I was a virgin until four days ago, when I started having sex with my boyfriend. It hurt me like crazy, not because I was tense (I was very wet, and lubed to boot), but it felt like he was stabbing my abdomen every time he thrusted.
He says that there is less room in there than normal, and after looking it up I think he's hitting my cervix. My period is supposed to start tomorrow, and I think it might be low. So, I think that was just a bad time to start having sex, I suppose. Or, is that wrong?
Either way, when he started not thrusting as deeply, I didn't feel anything at all. It was like he wasn't even in there. It made me worried, because I feel more during fingers, even, and I don't get much out of that.
But, to add to it all, before two minutes were up, he ejaculated prematurely. I chalked this up to it being our first time, but then we went at it three more times (different days), and the same thing occurred each time. He says he just gets overwhelmed and that I'm too sexy.
As for myself, I was a virgin prior to this, and he's had a few "one night stands" but no real sexual relationships to speak of. He was pretty much wasted all the other times he'd done it. He says that no other woman has made him finish, either, because he was too nervous before. Which is nice, in theory.
But, his problem comes in again in that when I give him attention down below, he can always hold it in pretty long. He has no problem getting an erection, either. However, since we've started having sex, he sometimes has a hard time even getting it up. He says he's worried he's going to hurt me (which he does), and that he won't be able to hold it in. Which, really, I think that worrying is his only problem.
Am I right? He's pretty much a virgin in all this, and pretty inexperienced. I think he could build up stamina if he just didn't worry so much. Also, I think if I didn't hurt so much, it would help us both relax. I'm afraid of every move he makes, because sometimes he just hurts me so badly.
Would I feel more if he could go longer? It seems like the longer he's in there, I start to feel a sensation. Not really pleasure, but I can tell he's in there. But, he can only be in there for any long amount of time if he's only "half erect". It just pretty much falls out at that point. He says he has to not think about sex to stop himself from ejaculating - which I think is the wrong technique. That really doesn't help him keep an erection. At any rate and makes it bad for both of us.
So, will the pain go away once my cycle is over? Will he be able to hold out longer the more comfortable he gets with having sex with me? Will I start to feel some sort of sensation? I worry, because I hear all the time that oral sex is so great, but I really don't feel anything at all, in that case. What can I do? We've read up on it, and just can't make it any better.
Should we just go with it until we figure it out? Please help. He's really upset about this, and I'm starting to worry I'm broken.
I know what ejaculation is. He ejaculates prematurely; ie, before he wants to. Out it comes. The only way he can stop it is to stop thinking about sex, which makes him soft.
I know he's not a virgin. I really get that. I mean it in that he's inexperienced.
I don't masturbate because I'm uncomfortable with it and get no pleasure.
I don't tell him to stop when it hurts. He keeps going. It gets a little better. The problem is that he can't keep going because he can't hold off very long. That kills it fast.