Justin Credible
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Hi guys. I have been going out with a girl for about a month now. It seems we have really hit it off really well. There is some baggage though that I am having a hard time taking in and I am not sure if it is the reasoning for the way she acts. The very first time I spoke to her on the phone she told me a lot of bad stuff that happened to her in the way of abuse and that it would take some time to trust men again. For some reason, I was compelled to try a date out with her because maybe I wanted to prove that all guys are not jerks. Anyway, to make a long story short she is going through therapy on her past and I have really tried to understand what she may be going through since she has been through a lot of trauma. Now that it is about a month later, it seems the puppy dog stage is now gone. Now she seems to constantly complain about how tired she is, how crappy she feels, how her head is stuffy, etc. And of course I will try and cheer her up or say sorry she is feeling so bad.
If the tables where turned and I was to complain to her about problems, I would not get the same response, it would be more along the lines of "I don't know what to tell you."
Also, it seems like she is always talking about herself and her life. I will of course ask questions based upon what she is telling me that is going on in her life. However, if I am to talk about something in my life, she seems kinda of disinterested and will say "I don't know."
I really like this girl a lot and I want to see her through. I do care about her a lot already and want to make sure her well-being is sound. I know she is into me big time, as she wants to hold hands a lot and likes to be kissed, but not to brag but I am much sweeter to her than she is to me. Compliments I give are not really met with complements back. Anyone have any thoughts on my situation? Thanks.
If the tables where turned and I was to complain to her about problems, I would not get the same response, it would be more along the lines of "I don't know what to tell you."
Also, it seems like she is always talking about herself and her life. I will of course ask questions based upon what she is telling me that is going on in her life. However, if I am to talk about something in my life, she seems kinda of disinterested and will say "I don't know."
I really like this girl a lot and I want to see her through. I do care about her a lot already and want to make sure her well-being is sound. I know she is into me big time, as she wants to hold hands a lot and likes to be kissed, but not to brag but I am much sweeter to her than she is to me. Compliments I give are not really met with complements back. Anyone have any thoughts on my situation? Thanks.