Need To Cheer Up After Rant From Dad?

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Ok...I told my parents that I am engaged and my dad proceeded to call my fiance and tell him the "he has known me my whole life and has seen me make too many mistakes that a mature adult would not make". I am 20 and the only mistakes I have made is bad taste in men, which were harmless they were just kind of idiots. My fiance is nothing like that. Other than that, I don't drink, I'm not promiscuous, and I try to be as honest as possible with friends and family, and I make good grades and have clear-cut career goals. Also, my dad was NEVER home while I was growing up so he hardly knows me. He won't even talk to me about his reservations about the engagement, he talked to my fiance instead because he thinks I am "too immature" to think rationally about this decision. I think he still thinks of me as a 10 year old because that is the last time he and I even had a real conversation. What should I do if a dad who is practically a stranger is trying to make judgment calls about my life choices? He and my mom are pretty dedicated to making this relationship fail and I am way too busy with school to put up with it!
 
personally...I think 20 is way to young to get married. You still have alot of changing to go threw before it starts slowing down around 24.
 
Its really nice that you're engaged to be married, but you're only 20. You've still got to get a bachelor's degree and get your first apartment and not be able to pay rent and get thrown out on your bum and go back to yuor parents house. What i mean to say is - you've still got a lot of experiences to well, experience!

Being enveloped in love is wonderful but dont let the clouds interfere with your goals for yourself.

As for your pops, just shrug him off. Go shopping or confide in a friend to perk you up. Or if its late, put on a funny movie - anything that makes you smile.

You old man sure "knows you", and he knows you better than most - but he is still thinking about the child that once was, not the woman that will be. Write him a note (cause my dad is really hard to talk to) telling him that very thing.

Tell him you understand his concern and will take them into account. Tell him that although he may be trying to look out for you, he is putting his foot in the way of you creating your own life - including making mistakes.

And if that's not a mature answer, then i dont know what is.

But most of all, dont sweat the old man, he loves you to bits even if you feel he wasnt around enough.

Best of luck chickadee, hope it all turns out for the best!
 
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