Ok, so I have another dilemma...
We just received the WONDERFUL news this past Friday (08/14) that we are in fact, expecting a little boy
This is what we had been hoping for all along, so to say the very least the excitement is definitely there!
However, in light of my impending arrival, I'm faced with a few issues and some heavy decisions when it comes to his name. First of all, the father (and I say the 'father', because we are not technically involved romantically) has always had the dream of a Jr. for his son in the future. Even when we were dating, he had mentioned it many times that this was one of the only things he would like. I LOVE his name (Christopher), but I am not thrilled with the idea of him and my son having the same exact name. To complicate things even more, we already will have soo many "Chris'es" on both sides of our families. His name being Christopher, his mother Christine, and my mother Kristen or "Kris"...I just think it would get too confusing throughout the years.
But, even my mother loves this idea..and has been in love with the name Christopher even before I ever met this man, back when she was pregnant with my youngest sister 10 years ago. So, she is very impartial to it as well. I really just don't know what to do.
I sort of feel since we are not together, and he does not wish to try and make it work, that he does not really 'deserve' such an honor. I feel Jr.'s should be reserved for married couples, or at least those attempting to make a commitment to each other for their child. But, in no way has he been cocky or adamant about this, making my decision even harder. He states I can choose whatever name I want, because he doesn't want to argue or disagree about names. He just says "it would be great" to him if our son did have his name, which makes me feel slightly guilty considering his niceness about the whole thing. Even if we didn’t end up choosing “Christopher”, I have the distinct feeling we will never agree about a name, since he likes very plain and boring options like “Johnny” or “Brad”..while I have settled on a stand-by that is much more unique – “Dominic”. Our tastes just differ greatly.
So, that is #1. The rest gets a bit easier. I also feel a little bit of a necessity to maintain some family pride in MY own name (always have, even in the event of a marriage that might occur I would choose to hyphen), especially since this will be the first boy born in my immediate family in over 60 years! My grandfather is the only other biological male, his name being Karlo (we are mostly Italian and Slovenia, and he is actually originally from the former Yugoslavia). Can anybody think of a way that I could realistically incorporate my heritage and carry on my own last name as well in my male child? I have suggested retaining my last name for him as well, but everyone I have told this to feels it is a terrible idea and an insult to the father.
Please help with your feedback. I know there’s a lot of information here, but if you look at my other questions, I like to detail the situation at hand in depth lol. So, this one was no different.
Thanx!
Wow, thanks for the answers already. I really like the idea of "Dominic Christopher" (and great that you confirmed it goes, since I wasn't so sure..) I thought of this myself also. But, I am not sure if he would be as happy having his name 'only' as the middle name. As it stands now though, this is what I'd pick if I had to have him tomorrow. And it's perfect since Christopher's middle name is actually HIS dad's first name (Matthew). So, carrying on some tradition here is always good!
We just received the WONDERFUL news this past Friday (08/14) that we are in fact, expecting a little boy
This is what we had been hoping for all along, so to say the very least the excitement is definitely there!However, in light of my impending arrival, I'm faced with a few issues and some heavy decisions when it comes to his name. First of all, the father (and I say the 'father', because we are not technically involved romantically) has always had the dream of a Jr. for his son in the future. Even when we were dating, he had mentioned it many times that this was one of the only things he would like. I LOVE his name (Christopher), but I am not thrilled with the idea of him and my son having the same exact name. To complicate things even more, we already will have soo many "Chris'es" on both sides of our families. His name being Christopher, his mother Christine, and my mother Kristen or "Kris"...I just think it would get too confusing throughout the years.
But, even my mother loves this idea..and has been in love with the name Christopher even before I ever met this man, back when she was pregnant with my youngest sister 10 years ago. So, she is very impartial to it as well. I really just don't know what to do.
I sort of feel since we are not together, and he does not wish to try and make it work, that he does not really 'deserve' such an honor. I feel Jr.'s should be reserved for married couples, or at least those attempting to make a commitment to each other for their child. But, in no way has he been cocky or adamant about this, making my decision even harder. He states I can choose whatever name I want, because he doesn't want to argue or disagree about names. He just says "it would be great" to him if our son did have his name, which makes me feel slightly guilty considering his niceness about the whole thing. Even if we didn’t end up choosing “Christopher”, I have the distinct feeling we will never agree about a name, since he likes very plain and boring options like “Johnny” or “Brad”..while I have settled on a stand-by that is much more unique – “Dominic”. Our tastes just differ greatly.
So, that is #1. The rest gets a bit easier. I also feel a little bit of a necessity to maintain some family pride in MY own name (always have, even in the event of a marriage that might occur I would choose to hyphen), especially since this will be the first boy born in my immediate family in over 60 years! My grandfather is the only other biological male, his name being Karlo (we are mostly Italian and Slovenia, and he is actually originally from the former Yugoslavia). Can anybody think of a way that I could realistically incorporate my heritage and carry on my own last name as well in my male child? I have suggested retaining my last name for him as well, but everyone I have told this to feels it is a terrible idea and an insult to the father.
Please help with your feedback. I know there’s a lot of information here, but if you look at my other questions, I like to detail the situation at hand in depth lol. So, this one was no different.
Thanx!
Wow, thanks for the answers already. I really like the idea of "Dominic Christopher" (and great that you confirmed it goes, since I wasn't so sure..) I thought of this myself also. But, I am not sure if he would be as happy having his name 'only' as the middle name. As it stands now though, this is what I'd pick if I had to have him tomorrow. And it's perfect since Christopher's middle name is actually HIS dad's first name (Matthew). So, carrying on some tradition here is always good!