I am going to assume that your wife is being treated by a doctor, for what she is going through. If not, start there. But I want to encourage you to seek God and his understanding. Let me illustrate what I mean. The first part of John 3:16 says that God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten son. The word world, used here, means sinners. A sinner is someone who either doesn't want anything to do with God, has turned his back on God or just wants to be in charge of hos own life and do it without God. Basically this person is hating on God. And God's response? To GIVE. Not because a person deserved it, but because God loves you, without any conditions. It doesn't matter what you've done or who you are, or wether you have even considered God at all, in your life. Then when Jesus Christ hung on a cross, after being betrayed, denied, and tortured, he said "Father, forgive them. They don't know what their doing." He forgave. Not because people deserved it, but because he loved them, in spite of themselves. I encourage you to seek God. To seek to understand him and his love. Then you will be able to love your wife, even when she doesn't deserve it, and forgive her, even when she acts in a disturbing, unkind, unloving way towards you.
